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Can’t cope anymore without Mum

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Like the title says, I just can't deal with life anymore without my Mum. I miss her so much I'm in physical pain, I can't accept or cope with the fact that I'll never talk to her or hug her again. She was my whole world and I honestly feel like I died when she died. It's been about 10 weeks since we lost her and every day is worse than the one before. I just want to go and be with her in heaven, I'm only 24 and I feel like I'm done with life because I'll never ever be happy again. The only thing that stops me doing anything is because I couldn't put my dad through that. I'm in so much pain and I just want her back so badly. Sorry to post this I'm just so unbelievably lost, lonely and heartbroken. Xx

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    I can't say it'll get easier because I don't believe that it does, and it's hard not to think selfishly in these times but you and your dad need each other, don't be sorry for expressing your feelings, sometimes it's nice to get it off your chest. The pain you felt the moment you lost her, the pain you feel now will never fade, you'll feel that pain constantly, but in time you'll also be able to talk about your mum and smile, you'll bring her up in conversations and say "this is what my mum used to do" and you'll remember her, who she was, you'll go home and think of that moment again, and cry that it's not something you'll ever get back. But in the years you'll be able to think of her and smile, not just cry. It's important to feel all of our emotions and not bottle it up, you've done the right thing coming on here and talking about it. I hope this doesn't upset you more, you need this time to grieve your mum, and it will take as long as you need. It doesn't get easier, but I promise one day you'll think back to your memories with her and smile Xx

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    I can't say it'll get easier because I don't believe that it does, and it's hard not to think selfishly in these times but you and your dad need each other, don't be sorry for expressing your feelings, sometimes it's nice to get it off your chest. The pain you felt the moment you lost her, the pain you feel now will never fade, you'll feel that pain constantly, but in time you'll also be able to talk about your mum and smile, you'll bring her up in conversations and say "this is what my mum used to do" and you'll remember her, who she was, you'll go home and think of that moment again, and cry that it's not something you'll ever get back. But in the years you'll be able to think of her and smile, not just cry. It's important to feel all of our emotions and not bottle it up, you've done the right thing coming on here and talking about it. I hope this doesn't upset you more, you need this time to grieve your mum, and it will take as long as you need. It doesn't get easier, but I promise one day you'll think back to your memories with her and smile Xx

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