Hi Rebecca, 

I've just logged on for the first time in a while and came across your post. I've just returned home from the hospice since 8am  this morning, by my dad's bedside, as he is only days away from the end too. We've been told he won't see the weekend through.

Im only 29. My dad is only 56!

The thought of losing him is breaking my heart. He's my dad. My best friend. The guy I go to for everything. I laugh with him. Drink with him. Tell him everything. Go to him with girl problems, and believe me there are plenty of them. That thought of never sharing them things with him again is crushing.

Just know, you're not alone in this. This is happening to many of us. It may feel like the world is against you. I've felt like that on many occasions but found so much help on here through communicating with others in the same situation.

There's nothing I can say or do to take the pain away. I can only offer you the advice that I've received so far in preparation for my dad's death. 

He would want you to live on. He would want you to enjoy your life and make the most of it. He will be watching over you and will live on through you. Try and focus on all the good times you had together, all those happy memories. Cling on to them and never let go!

Really hope you're OK!

Matt

hi Matt, 

i am so sorry to hear about your father. It’s heartbrekakng to see them in such a situation and being completely helpless. I myself have spent the last year spending a lot of time with my father especially the last couple of months, and I know exactly what you’re going through. 

Like your father, my daddy was 56 too . 

Ive had a lot of people talk to me about everything and what to prepare and etc over the last couple of months but nothing can prepare you for this. People say to think about memories and etc, but when it’s happened your brain is constantly doing over drive to think of every single memory and then you panic because you can’t remember a particular day and etc. For example , I can’t remember the last conversation I had with my father .

i and my family didn’t expect this to happen the way it has done. I wish I was there to comfort him and I wish I could hold him and just nurse him. I love him so much and I will never be able to live a normal life without my father being by my side. 

I give you all my best wishes and hugs! 

Becca 

hi Matt, 

i am so sorry to hear about your father. It’s heartbrekakng to see them in such a situation and being completely helpless. I myself have spent the last year spending a lot of time with my father especially the last couple of months, and I know exactly what you’re going through. 

Like your father, my daddy was 56 too . 

Ive had a lot of people talk to me about everything and what to prepare and etc over the last couple of months but nothing can prepare you for this. People say to think about memories and etc, but when it’s happened your brain is constantly doing over drive to think of every single memory and then you panic because you can’t remember a particular day and etc. For example , I can’t remember the last conversation I had with my father .

i and my family didn’t expect this to happen the way it has done. I wish I was there to comfort him and I wish I could hold him and just nurse him. I love him so much and I will never be able to live a normal life without my father being by my side. 

I give you all my best wishes and hugs! 

Becca