Hi rebecca,

I'm so sorry to hear that your father has passed away.

I cant bring you any comfort other than to tell you that you will get through this.

My dad died suddenly when I was 27 and my mum died suddenly 7 weeks ago. I am now 48.

I dont know how I am getting through each day.all know is that I am doing it.

I am taking each hour by hour and day by day.

It feels like yesterday since the trauma if mums death and it feels like my grief is getting worse but I can say that the pain in my chest is getting less and the tears are reducing.

Please dont try and control your grief. Cry as much as you need to. I have been told to control my emotions in front of my 12 year old daughter to avoid upsetting her.

This is nonsense and even if I could control my emotions I dont agree that this is the best thing to do.

Just take each day as it comes, be there for your siblings and dont put any expectations on yourself.

I have avoided alcohol as it makes me feel worse and I am trying to exercise. I've been going for lots of walks and in the last week have managed more aerobic exercise at the gym. It doesn't make the horror go away but it does make you feel better and stronger.

If your mum is still around lean on her and be there for each other. I would never have got through my dads death without my mum.

Take care of yourself.

Cheryl x

Hi rebecca,

I'm so sorry to hear that your father has passed away.

I cant bring you any comfort other than to tell you that you will get through this.

My dad died suddenly when I was 27 and my mum died suddenly 7 weeks ago. I am now 48.

I dont know how I am getting through each day.all know is that I am doing it.

I am taking each hour by hour and day by day.

It feels like yesterday since the trauma if mums death and it feels like my grief is getting worse but I can say that the pain in my chest is getting less and the tears are reducing.

Please dont try and control your grief. Cry as much as you need to. I have been told to control my emotions in front of my 12 year old daughter to avoid upsetting her.

This is nonsense and even if I could control my emotions I dont agree that this is the best thing to do.

Just take each day as it comes, be there for your siblings and dont put any expectations on yourself.

I have avoided alcohol as it makes me feel worse and I am trying to exercise. I've been going for lots of walks and in the last week have managed more aerobic exercise at the gym. It doesn't make the horror go away but it does make you feel better and stronger.

If your mum is still around lean on her and be there for each other. I would never have got through my dads death without my mum.

Take care of yourself.

Cheryl x