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My mum passed away and we were on bad terms

Melh
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I was  very close to my mum but we had a disagreement 2 years ago and left on bad terms and didn’t speak to each other.  Unfortunately she was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer in December 2018 and passed away 3 weeks later. However I didn’t know this until 6 weeks later when my step father phoned me to tell me and told me I should feel ashamed of myself. 

I feel awful that I never made up with my mum and feel overwhelmed with grief and guilt and don’t know how I’m going to get over this. I loved my mum dearly even though we had a disagreement, it didn’t mean i stopped loving her. I wish I had contacted her sooner and told her how much I love her. 

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    Hi Mel

    My name's Daniel

    I hope you don't mind me contacting you, I don't want to drag up any hurt if you're moving on from it. 

    I saw your post while I was searching for answers to my own predicament like yours. 

    My mum died 2.5 years ago, quite suddenly. We had a massive fall out and not spoken in almost 4 years. In November it will be 7 years, but I know two things for sure.

    Despite the fall out, I loved her with all my heart. 

    And deep down I know she loved me too.

    That's all that matters really. The event that came about you can't change. It was a moment in time.

    And like your love for each other, no matter what words were said, the love is always there. It can't be changed.

    I hope you found the same conclusion with your own relationship. If not I'm sure you will.

    I'm sorry to dig this up for you but I hope you fine peace.

    Drop me a line if you ever need to download stuff x

    Beat wishes

    Dan

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    Hi Mel

    My name's Daniel

    I hope you don't mind me contacting you, I don't want to drag up any hurt if you're moving on from it. 

    I saw your post while I was searching for answers to my own predicament like yours. 

    My mum died 2.5 years ago, quite suddenly. We had a massive fall out and not spoken in almost 4 years. In November it will be 7 years, but I know two things for sure.

    Despite the fall out, I loved her with all my heart. 

    And deep down I know she loved me too.

    That's all that matters really. The event that came about you can't change. It was a moment in time.

    And like your love for each other, no matter what words were said, the love is always there. It can't be changed.

    I hope you found the same conclusion with your own relationship. If not I'm sure you will.

    I'm sorry to dig this up for you but I hope you fine peace.

    Drop me a line if you ever need to download stuff x

    Beat wishes

    Dan

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