Hi there...

So sorry your young friend was lost due to this unforgiving crule cancer ...

When my brother in law, had the same wasting cancer, we watched as he went from the toughest, healthiest member of our family, become skeletal ... and it was the crulest of memories to be left with ..

But since having cancer myself, realise that cancer not only takes loved ones away from us... it wants to take the good happy memories and replace them with the cancer ones .. that way, we are all victims of this cancer ... so slowly, every time l remembered him near the end .. I would close my eyes and recall the best , funniest moments he gave us ... every look, every word, and recall that memory very slowly, over and over till it pushed the painfull memory to the back of my mind ...

We live a life time filled with pre cancer times .. cancer takes a small and horrible last ones ... l know I want to be remembered for my life, pre cancer .. while acknowledging the journey I've been on too .. so please know, your just grieving for your friend right now .. and there's no way round that grief... but oh so slowly, fill that void, with the things she achieved in her life ... while telling yourself right now, it's o.k to cry ... feel angry .. or even smile at a funny memory ... that way, you will never loose her, you will all take her with you on your paths through life .. she'll be tucked up safely in your hearts .. 

Sending you all a big vertual hug ... Chrissie

Hi there...

So sorry your young friend was lost due to this unforgiving crule cancer ...

When my brother in law, had the same wasting cancer, we watched as he went from the toughest, healthiest member of our family, become skeletal ... and it was the crulest of memories to be left with ..

But since having cancer myself, realise that cancer not only takes loved ones away from us... it wants to take the good happy memories and replace them with the cancer ones .. that way, we are all victims of this cancer ... so slowly, every time l remembered him near the end .. I would close my eyes and recall the best , funniest moments he gave us ... every look, every word, and recall that memory very slowly, over and over till it pushed the painfull memory to the back of my mind ...

We live a life time filled with pre cancer times .. cancer takes a small and horrible last ones ... l know I want to be remembered for my life, pre cancer .. while acknowledging the journey I've been on too .. so please know, your just grieving for your friend right now .. and there's no way round that grief... but oh so slowly, fill that void, with the things she achieved in her life ... while telling yourself right now, it's o.k to cry ... feel angry .. or even smile at a funny memory ... that way, you will never loose her, you will all take her with you on your paths through life .. she'll be tucked up safely in your hearts .. 

Sending you all a big vertual hug ... Chrissie

Hi Chrissie

Thank you for your message and your words are good advice. I shall do that when the hideous memories pop up. 

Im sorry to hear about your battle with cancer but you sound like a very brave woman. 

Many thanks

Lou