Widowed

My husband was diagnosed in October last year with liver cancer and passed away in May. Some days is a struggle and others not so bad. Our youngest daughter birthday was 3 days after his passing our wedding anniversary a few weeks and my eldest daughters 18th birthday. I just feel sad that he’s missed all these special times and he’d have loved it all. I have family that are great and others not so great, my own mother couldn’t even make an effort to come to my daughters birthday celebrations and it makes it so angry that all she ever says is you’ll get over it. This is something I will not get over watching my husband suffer in pain even though the hospital staff did all they could. It’s upsetting to think he’s not here to enjoy all the things we’d planned to do in the future.

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  • Hi Caroline,

    There is no fairness to any of this, I'm 32 and my Mum died last year in November after a brave 1 year battle with Vulvar cancer and due to intense radiotherapy was unable to make my wedding last July nor will she be able to meet my kids in the future.

    Like you I stray into negative feelings around what she will miss out on or not be a part of but we have to stay positive, try to accept what has happened and move forward knowing they will be looking down and incredibly proud at what we went on to achieve.

    I'm sure he's ever so proud of you Caroline and how brave you've been! 

    Scott x

     

     

     

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  • Hi Caroline,

    There is no fairness to any of this, I'm 32 and my Mum died last year in November after a brave 1 year battle with Vulvar cancer and due to intense radiotherapy was unable to make my wedding last July nor will she be able to meet my kids in the future.

    Like you I stray into negative feelings around what she will miss out on or not be a part of but we have to stay positive, try to accept what has happened and move forward knowing they will be looking down and incredibly proud at what we went on to achieve.

    I'm sure he's ever so proud of you Caroline and how brave you've been! 

    Scott x

     

     

     

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