I still can’t believe my dad has gone.

It’s coming up to 3 months since my dad died and I still can’t accept that he has gone. I carry I heavy ness around with me on my chest making it hard to breath. At night the pain is really bad and I see him laying in the bed dying and his face. I can’t seem to picture him before, I can barely look at a picture for a few seconds before it’s too painful. I can’t look ahead anymore, all my future seems to have gone and it’s too painful to even try and think about it as he isn’t going to be in it. I hope this is all normal because it doesn’t feel like it to me!

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  • Hi Sarah,

    I know this is an old post but out of sheer desperation I randomly typed into google the words "I can't believe my dad has gone" and your post came up. It is only been about 3 and a half weeks since my Dad passed and I just wanted to let you know i think it is totally normal to feel this way and that i hope you are feeling more hopeful now more time has gone by xx

  • Hi

     

    I don't do online forums or what have you, so sorry if this is clunky or ill judged (I'm in my 30s so not too old for this stuff, just chose to stay away from technology!)

     

    I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I lost my own precious father in May and I am struggling to cope even 6 months later. I googled same as you and got here - my dad had previously had cancer and survived so I was complacent, but he got secondary cancer and then all sorts of complications which accelerated his demise. We were all with him when he died and don't think we can have regrets about stuff but I get flashbacks and waves of utter despair. Does it ever get easier? My mum was doing brilliantly but now wants to end it all and it is horrific to see. They were a couple who loved and grew together for 50 years and were besotted. I couldn't even dream of this relationship with anyone. She will never get over it.... 

     

    Love to all who have loved and lost xx

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