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I still can’t believe my dad has gone.

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It’s coming up to 3 months since my dad died and I still can’t accept that he has gone. I carry I heavy ness around with me on my chest making it hard to breath. At night the pain is really bad and I see him laying in the bed dying and his face. I can’t seem to picture him before, I can barely look at a picture for a few seconds before it’s too painful. I can’t look ahead anymore, all my future seems to have gone and it’s too painful to even try and think about it as he isn’t going to be in it. I hope this is all normal because it doesn’t feel like it to me!

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    Hi Sarah,

    It is a really sad situation and you are not alone in this. Couple of things just wanted to say is that:

    1- grief has multiple stages the very first one is denial. So don't think it is not natuaral.

    2- For your chest pain it seems to me that if you see your GP will be really helpful because of the anxiety and depressing situation I had my GP gave me some beta blockers called Propranolol which really countered my chest pain so please go and visit him.

    3- Also try to be more with friends and try to put your self in nicer situations may be a good book, happy hangout with friends and family and visiting some places that you never seen before. May be a trip? You have to break this cycle usually you should recover within a year. My mum was like that when she lost her mum.

    4- you are not alone and we are all thinking and care about you. Never prevent yourself from talking with others because talking about this will relief some pressure from you and it really helps.

    5- I think you are so brave to cope with it because I still haven't lost my parent and I have nightmares about it so listen girl you are DOING DAAAMN GOOD! Keep it up.:cool:

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    Hi Sarah,

    It is a really sad situation and you are not alone in this. Couple of things just wanted to say is that:

    1- grief has multiple stages the very first one is denial. So don't think it is not natuaral.

    2- For your chest pain it seems to me that if you see your GP will be really helpful because of the anxiety and depressing situation I had my GP gave me some beta blockers called Propranolol which really countered my chest pain so please go and visit him.

    3- Also try to be more with friends and try to put your self in nicer situations may be a good book, happy hangout with friends and family and visiting some places that you never seen before. May be a trip? You have to break this cycle usually you should recover within a year. My mum was like that when she lost her mum.

    4- you are not alone and we are all thinking and care about you. Never prevent yourself from talking with others because talking about this will relief some pressure from you and it really helps.

    5- I think you are so brave to cope with it because I still haven't lost my parent and I have nightmares about it so listen girl you are DOING DAAAMN GOOD! Keep it up.:cool:

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