just lost husband to stage 4 cancer

hello, everyone, I am from New York and came across this website that looks so helpful, on August 18th the love of my life passed away from stage 4 lung cancer that had spread to his liver, bones, and brain. This is the most painful thing I have ever gone through in my life, I feel so half empty without him. The crazy thing about it is we found out about cancer on August 1st by the 18th he passed away. Everything was such a shock and still is, it's killing me inside not having him here with me especially at night. I look at our four children and the thought that he won't be around for their growing up is unbearable. You know the symptoms did not start to show until July when he started complaining of his back, right shoulder, and arm, he went into the hospital on July 31st and on Aug 1st we found out about cancer, I thought he had months to a year, not two weeks can anyone else who has gone through this with a loved one please tell me how they deal and cope with this because I feel like I am going into depression I cry every day, I miss and love him so much we were together 16 years, I will never have another man like him  

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  • So sorry ... I've not lost a partner but many loved ones have gone ... there's not much any one can say to help the pain go away but I can send you a big hug right over the Atlantic to you ... 

    try to not look too far ahead and deal with one feeling and day at a time ... then you won't be overwhelmed And slowly days do pass and I believe they don't leave they still keep an eye on us from where they are ... and sometimes think what he would say if he could and I know that helped me with dilemmas in my life ... 

    my thoughts are with you ... take care of your heart ️ xx

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  • So sorry ... I've not lost a partner but many loved ones have gone ... there's not much any one can say to help the pain go away but I can send you a big hug right over the Atlantic to you ... 

    try to not look too far ahead and deal with one feeling and day at a time ... then you won't be overwhelmed And slowly days do pass and I believe they don't leave they still keep an eye on us from where they are ... and sometimes think what he would say if he could and I know that helped me with dilemmas in my life ... 

    my thoughts are with you ... take care of your heart ️ xx

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