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Loss of an adult child

Wendys1
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I lost my beautiful kind and talented daughter to stomach cancer at the age of 26 in October 2014. I see so many posts from people who have lost parents and partners to cancer but nothing from bereaved parents. I am struggling to cope with my grief I have two other daughters who need me to be strong I am divorced and am supporting a male friend who has just had his third liver resection for secondary bowel cancer. I have days like today when I can't eat or get out of bed but I have to work full time as a primary school teacher to support myself. I would love to hear from other bereaved parents who know what I am going through

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    6 years ago I lost my youngest daughter to lymphoma.I have 2,other daughters and they miss her also.the sadness never goes away. we talk about her all the time and remember the laughs we had she was the type of person who could make you laugh just by her being there.The grief never goes away but you do learn to live with it I hope you will also.

     

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    Hi Jeannie

    I also lost my daughter to Lymphoma in March 2017. She was my eldest daughter, my best friend, my favourite travelling companion and a truly lovely person. She was 52 and had endured so many procedures, trials and treatments. She left behind 3 wonderful boys who are her amazing legacy but I see her in so many of their mannerisms which many would find comforting but tears me apart.

    I look for signs that she is around still but the truth is that she is gone and I will never talk to her, kiss her, hug her and see that wonderful smile ever again. She loved and lived life to the full, was interested in everything and everyone and never said ' Why me?'

    She was one of lifes radiators and I am asking now WHY HER?

    We are all living a kind of life now. Trying to fill our days, to smile when we meet someone and cover up the pain. People think that after 18 months you have had time to adjust and grieve but tears are just below the surface and I don't think that will ever change. I MISS HER XX

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    Hi Jeannie

    I also lost my daughter to Lymphoma in March 2017. She was my eldest daughter, my best friend, my favourite travelling companion and a truly lovely person. She was 52 and had endured so many procedures, trials and treatments. She left behind 3 wonderful boys who are her amazing legacy but I see her in so many of their mannerisms which many would find comforting but tears me apart.

    I look for signs that she is around still but the truth is that she is gone and I will never talk to her, kiss her, hug her and see that wonderful smile ever again. She loved and lived life to the full, was interested in everything and everyone and never said ' Why me?'

    She was one of lifes radiators and I am asking now WHY HER?

    We are all living a kind of life now. Trying to fill our days, to smile when we meet someone and cover up the pain. People think that after 18 months you have had time to adjust and grieve but tears are just below the surface and I don't think that will ever change. I MISS HER XX

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