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Mother passed away and I don't want my boyfriend

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Hello,

I was extremely close to my mum and I looked after her 24/7 in her final few weeks. Sadly, she passed away after a long fight with breast cancer. Quickly after her death I went travelling with my boyfriend and between us we were really good. Since coming home, the shock of losing my mum hit me and suddenly I had to grieve and get used to house etc and then I was back at uni with even more stress and work - I live at uni during term time. Now, i've started pushing my boyfriend away and hes irritating me. We've been together for 5 years and we were so happy but now I dont feel the same way and I cant think of a rational reasoning why. I don't want to break up with him if my feelings are being distorted because I'm going through grief. I told him that I was going to start going to counselling to talk through my issues and he got upset and offended that I wasn't talking to him. 

I'm going through so much and I cant think clearly - especially in what is best for me and my relationship.

 

Any advice?

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    daer bluebellegray sorry about your mum i can understand how you feel i was the same after my mum who passed away last december to ovarian cancer, having previous been in remission from early stage breast cancer since 2011, you don,t feel like talking to your friends, its really hits you in the face when you lose a parent and even after ten months of losing mum who really suffered the three weeks in hospital, i don,t see much of freinds because i don,t feel like it, because my mind is still on mum, esp this december has it going to bring it all back, i am sure your boyfriend will understand how you feel and hope he will support you, like i have the support of my three sisters, it will take time before it starts to get a bit easy, just take one day at a time,and i am sure you will get there, oggi

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    daer bluebellegray sorry about your mum i can understand how you feel i was the same after my mum who passed away last december to ovarian cancer, having previous been in remission from early stage breast cancer since 2011, you don,t feel like talking to your friends, its really hits you in the face when you lose a parent and even after ten months of losing mum who really suffered the three weeks in hospital, i don,t see much of freinds because i don,t feel like it, because my mind is still on mum, esp this december has it going to bring it all back, i am sure your boyfriend will understand how you feel and hope he will support you, like i have the support of my three sisters, it will take time before it starts to get a bit easy, just take one day at a time,and i am sure you will get there, oggi

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