Hello Annie-E, 

I am so sorry for your loss and wanted to send you our sincere condolences on behalf of the Cancer Chat team. Your story reminded me of that of Madamejones‍ who posted a thread and whose dad also passed away very recently. Like you, she described how distressing it was to see her dad in his final days and also had to go through the difficult process of planning the funeral so don't hesitate to respond to that thread if you would like to talk to someone else who truly understands what you are going through. As you say, even if your friends mean well, sometimes you need to talk to someone who has had a similar experience or it all feels a little lonely. This forum is a safe space for you to meet others who have also lost a loved one and who also feel the need to reach out and talk to others who are also grieving. 

I am so sorry to hear that your mum is feeling so low and doesn't seem to be coping. It might be a good idea if you see no improvement in how she is feeling to try and get her to talk to her GP about it as it sounds like she could do with some help. 

Coping with Grief is by no means easy and there is no right way to grieve but there is a section on our website on Coping with Grief you might find interesting to look at. We're thinking of you during this difficult time and wanted you to know that you are not alone. 

Best wishes, 

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

Hello Annie-E, 

I am so sorry for your loss and wanted to send you our sincere condolences on behalf of the Cancer Chat team. Your story reminded me of that of Madamejones‍ who posted a thread and whose dad also passed away very recently. Like you, she described how distressing it was to see her dad in his final days and also had to go through the difficult process of planning the funeral so don't hesitate to respond to that thread if you would like to talk to someone else who truly understands what you are going through. As you say, even if your friends mean well, sometimes you need to talk to someone who has had a similar experience or it all feels a little lonely. This forum is a safe space for you to meet others who have also lost a loved one and who also feel the need to reach out and talk to others who are also grieving. 

I am so sorry to hear that your mum is feeling so low and doesn't seem to be coping. It might be a good idea if you see no improvement in how she is feeling to try and get her to talk to her GP about it as it sounds like she could do with some help. 

Coping with Grief is by no means easy and there is no right way to grieve but there is a section on our website on Coping with Grief you might find interesting to look at. We're thinking of you during this difficult time and wanted you to know that you are not alone. 

Best wishes, 

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator