My husband was disagnosed with a stage 4 tumour at the base of his skull in January this year, he was previously in remission from throat cancer. The diagnosis has hit us both hard and the reality is I will lose him eventually. He was hospitalised two weeks ago as they thought the cancer has spread but the scans showed it had not. He literally went into hospital one man and came out a frail week man. Reality has hit hard and I am in permenant state of anxiety wondering how I will ever hold down a full time job and tend to his needs. They have decided to stop chemo and change it to immunotherapy which is positive but don't know how I will find the strength to deal with it. This man is my whole world. How do people manage? How do you find the work/life/carer balance? To watch his pain and weakness breaks my heart every single day he has always been my strength in difficult times and now I'm losing him to this dispicable illness.