Unsure if I want to know husband's prognosis

Hi - my husband has recently been diagnosed with prostate cancer - metastatic- had bone scan & ct scan & we’re waiting to see the oncologist to give us the prognosis & see how far the cancer has gone.

I desperately want to be there with my husband for the oncologist meeting but, although he wants to know, I’m not sure I can face knowing how long he may have in actual years. I feel such a coward - I’m just not sure what to do. Feeling very selfish & frightened.

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  • Hi Lindabobs 

    I hope you’re OK and your husband is too, I’m not sure if by now you’ve had the meeting with your Oncologist. 

    My husband and I are currently waiting, an almostidentical situation,  and a a rollercoaster of emotions. 

    I hope you are both OK and coping x 

  • Hi - just wondering how things are with you & your husband. I was thinking what a ‘journey’ this all is & how what’s happened has put so many things into perspective. 
    We’re now waiting on date for radiotherapy treatment - think the word ‘waiting’ is definitely something we’ve had to get used to & certainly patience. 
    if you have time please let me know how you are. 
    Love Linda xx

  • Hello Linda 

    My husband had RT on his spine early December which was done within 48 hours, very quickly, this is where the Cancer had spread to from prostate. 

    He has since had 2 Hormone jabs which have taken his PSA level from 46 to 4 !

    So they are pleased but want to follow up with 6 zaps of RT, unsure when this will be. 

    We live in Cambs and they do seem to be pretty good, although I daren’t speak too soon. 

    I went through Ovarian Cancer with my Mum so I know how it can change your outlook on everything, people never think it’s going to happen to them, it has always something in the forefront of my mind I must admit. 

    Did your hubby have any luck with a F2F appt at all ? 

    xxxxxx

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  • Hello Linda 

    My husband had RT on his spine early December which was done within 48 hours, very quickly, this is where the Cancer had spread to from prostate. 

    He has since had 2 Hormone jabs which have taken his PSA level from 46 to 4 !

    So they are pleased but want to follow up with 6 zaps of RT, unsure when this will be. 

    We live in Cambs and they do seem to be pretty good, although I daren’t speak too soon. 

    I went through Ovarian Cancer with my Mum so I know how it can change your outlook on everything, people never think it’s going to happen to them, it has always something in the forefront of my mind I must admit. 

    Did your hubby have any luck with a F2F appt at all ? 

    xxxxxx

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  • Hi - thanks for your reply. Sounds like your husband has got underway very quickly with his treatment which is very encouraging. PSA brilliant news too. 
    Nige has got face to face on Wed 15th Jan when we’re guessing he’ll be sent for ct scan/mri to see how far the cancer has hopefully shrunk before starting radiotherapy - just guessing of course. Hot flushes & fatigue are main things to contend with atm. 
    You obviously have experience because of your Mum - we’re very much learning as we go along.

    Thanks again for coming back - makes me feel not quite so alone with things. Wishing you & your husband the very best. 

    We live near Durham - it’s absolutely freezing up here - lots of snow last weekend & thick ice & frost now. Take care.

    Love Linda xx