Just want to talk

Don’t know what to put. I’m 42 years old. Just been through safe 3 borderline 4 breast cancer and been cancer free 2 years. Mum was diagnosed with terminal cancer 1 1/2yrs after my diagnosis. She has lived 3 years longer than they predicted due to chemo and we have had so many more beautiful memories with her. 
she is now in the final stages of her life. We have her at home and although we have carers 4 times a day we do most of the caring for her. My dad has taken to drinking again (not unusual) and thinks we don’t know. He’s hiding it and being so irritable and argumentative the next day with both me and my mum. Kills me that he’s like that with her. She can’t do anything for herself now and all I want to do is make her last days as good as they can be. My sister comes and gives me a break maybe 2 days a week but other than that I am there from 6am till maybe 11:30pm. Dad constantly makes me feel guilty if I go earlier than maybe 10pm. I don’t have children but I have 2 dogs and 4 cats that I pretty much just pop back and make sure they are fed/let out and walked throughout the day. I don’t have a partner and my house is showing the signs of neglect. I just don’t know what to do or how much longer I can go on like this. My sister is an hour away with her family to look after and my brother is in Australia with his family. He doesn’t want to see mum how she is so tries to be there in other ways. Though tbh it’s not enough. I am the youngest and the one that is baring all the anger/frustration and care. I just don’t know what I can do. 

  • Hi thank you everyone for your messages. My mum and I tried to talk to him last night about the drinking as he had bought and hid yet another bottle of whisky. He had already drank half a bottle when we spoke to him and he just got angry. Mum tried to express her worry and upset and I tried to express mine. His opinion was what harm was it causing. He then proceeded to finish the bottle so I was left to abandon my animals for the night and stay over there as I wasn’t going to leave her with him in that state. To top it off and anger me further he took her phone paranoid she was messaging my sister about the drinking and continued to scroll through her messages making my mum very upset. It took everything I had not to loose my *** with him (pardon the swearing) my sister is up tonight for a couple of days but she won’t stay if he’s drinking because she knows his behaviour. My body is giving up on me because of all the lifting and cleaning. I spoke to my brother but I think things are going to far now and something needs to be done. Thank you for all your advice. I appreciate being able to share this with people that understand