My Dad won’t seek help

Hi all. I’m posting here because I don’t know what else to do. We think my dad has cancer, from the symptoms he has we think it’s Esophagus cancer. The problem is he will not see a doctor! He is 67 and is of sound mind but we are all so very worried that he’s not got much longer left. He can’t swallow, my mom has to blend his food, he’s constantly being sick or spitting into the sink. His voice is getting harder to understand, it sounds like someone has their hand around his throat (sorry that’s the best way I can describe it) and he’s lost a massive amount of weight, you can see his bones through his clothes. He lost control of his bowels last week in his sleep and then stayed in bed for the day but seemed to recover from that ok so I think that may just have been a bug. Im so sorry for the long post I just don’t know what to do. Im so worried for my mom too, She still works and is also taking care of my Dad when he needs it. She’s told him she wants to get doctors involved but he’s warned her off. Any advice would be gratefully received.

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Parents
  • Dear onlychild

    I'm so sorry you are having to deal with this and I'm not entirely sure if this is ethical or not, but when you dad is having a reaction can you not call for an ambulance - they may be able of persuade him that hospital is the place he needs to be for tests - dam the consequences of a fallout with him - your actions may well save his life. 

    As I saythis advice may not be ethical or a route you want to take but if Mohammed won't come to the mountain etc etc

    Anne

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  • Dear onlychild

    I'm so sorry you are having to deal with this and I'm not entirely sure if this is ethical or not, but when you dad is having a reaction can you not call for an ambulance - they may be able of persuade him that hospital is the place he needs to be for tests - dam the consequences of a fallout with him - your actions may well save his life. 

    As I saythis advice may not be ethical or a route you want to take but if Mohammed won't come to the mountain etc etc

    Anne

Children
  • Hi Anne. 
    The problem with that is I don't live with them, just for the record I'm 46 I dont go as much as I should due to being frightened and hate seeing my dad so poorly. Unfortunately this would be down to my mom as she is with him the most. What you say makes total sense and sounds like the right thing to do, but I think this won't happen until he takes a turn for the worst. I'm hoping when my mom does call the doctor she'll be put on the right track. 
    Thank you so much for your reply,