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Is my partner lying about possible cancer?

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Hello, I'll try and keep this short. 

I have identified a lot of red flags in the below story, but it would be great to have someone else's opinion on this.

I told my husband I wanted to leave him yesterday, lots of arguing followed and then he told me he had been to A&E that day and has been told he might have cancer. To be fair to him, he has had some symptoms of anal cancer but has been refusing to go to his gp. Now all of a sudden he has taken himself off to the emergency department and within 2 hours has given a stool sample, had a biopsy, blood tests and had a camera in his anus to look at his issue. This just seems like a lot to me in a very short space of time. He said they would email him the results in 2 weeks.

I asked why he didn't take anyone with him, why he didn't call while he was there, why it took 6 hours to tel me etc.

Can someone please clarify if any of the above sounds believable?

Thanks 

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    You are right to be suspicious, it would be a miracle if the NHS was able to accomplish so much in such a short space of time.
    Not impossible but in our local ED it typically takes 3 hours to even see the triage nurse, another 2 hours to see a junior doctor and unless it is an emergency, several hours (usually overnight) before the bowel has been evacuated sufficiently for an endoscopy to be performed. 
    Results are NEVER supposed to be emailed to a patient as this breaches NHS IT security rules.
    You might receive results via the NHS app but best practice is for these to be given face to face with a doctor and a specialist nurse. 

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    You are right to be suspicious, it would be a miracle if the NHS was able to accomplish so much in such a short space of time.
    Not impossible but in our local ED it typically takes 3 hours to even see the triage nurse, another 2 hours to see a junior doctor and unless it is an emergency, several hours (usually overnight) before the bowel has been evacuated sufficiently for an endoscopy to be performed. 
    Results are NEVER supposed to be emailed to a patient as this breaches NHS IT security rules.
    You might receive results via the NHS app but best practice is for these to be given face to face with a doctor and a specialist nurse. 

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