Hi people who are ill are never a burden to others. 

Have you thought about alternative travel alot of hospital's have transport vehicles just to pick up patients, there and back, also some people will drive patients there and back you just pay for fuel. You should be able to get details from hospital reception or on line..

Hope your soon sorted. 

Take care keep positive (easier said than done).

Billy 

Thank you Billy for the idea. I think I would find it really hard going without a family member incase something happens. I don't cope well in new situations but I hope he stops being angry. Maybe I might talk about it to my grandma and I'm sure she'll pass the message on. She is the only person my dad is empathetic towards.

Thank you, I will try to keep positive.

It's possible your dad is really worried and is shouting about things like parking spaces because what he is really thinking is "what if there is something really wrong with my little girl? I can't bear seeing her go through this. She's only 23, it's not fair." Some older men have a lot of difficulty showing their feelings.

Of course you are not a burden and of course it's not immature. 

When I had thyroid cancer, my mother went out in the rain the morning after I got out of hospital to pick up my prescription. I felt a bit guilty about that, because I could have done it myself, but she never said one word of complaint. And when I say "rain," I'm talking a downpour, not just an ordinary rain shower. I am 40.

This has nothing to do with age. If my mum were ill, I hope I would try to support her.

The issue here is with your dad, not with you. You did absolutely nothing wrong. That doesn't mean your dad is a bad person, just that people don't always respond well in stressful situations. Some people react to worry by getting angry. It also sounds like he might possibly have been in denial about things like the possibility of cancer. And might not have wanted to hear about it because that made the possibility real and he may have wanted to pretend it wasn't happening,

OK, I've just read your final posts now and it really does sound like your father struggles to deal with bad things and prefers to pretend they don't exist. Your symptoms might be an unpleasant reminder that bad things can happen and he is trying to ignore that by focussing on things like parking spaces rather than admitting he is scared too. It doesn't excuse his behaviour, but might be an explanation for it.

It's possible your dad is really worried and is shouting about things like parking spaces because what he is really thinking is "what if there is something really wrong with my little girl? I can't bear seeing her go through this. She's only 23, it's not fair." Some older men have a lot of difficulty showing their feelings.

Of course you are not a burden and of course it's not immature. 

When I had thyroid cancer, my mother went out in the rain the morning after I got out of hospital to pick up my prescription. I felt a bit guilty about that, because I could have done it myself, but she never said one word of complaint. And when I say "rain," I'm talking a downpour, not just an ordinary rain shower. I am 40.

This has nothing to do with age. If my mum were ill, I hope I would try to support her.

The issue here is with your dad, not with you. You did absolutely nothing wrong. That doesn't mean your dad is a bad person, just that people don't always respond well in stressful situations. Some people react to worry by getting angry. It also sounds like he might possibly have been in denial about things like the possibility of cancer. And might not have wanted to hear about it because that made the possibility real and he may have wanted to pretend it wasn't happening,

OK, I've just read your final posts now and it really does sound like your father struggles to deal with bad things and prefers to pretend they don't exist. Your symptoms might be an unpleasant reminder that bad things can happen and he is trying to ignore that by focussing on things like parking spaces rather than admitting he is scared too. It doesn't excuse his behaviour, but might be an explanation for it.

Thank you so much Margaret. I think it is true that my dad has difficulty showing his feelings and trying to pretend it doesn't exist by focusing on other things. I agree that doesn't excuse him for his behaviour so thank you for saying that, but it does feel better thinking that he does care rather than him actually only caring about himself.

I'm really sorry that you had thyroid cancer. I would feel guilty aswell if my mum went out during a dounpour to pick up prescription. She sounds like a very kind person to have not said one word of complain because it must be hard. I feel like I'd want to feel appreciated but not complaining really would make the person appreciate them more. 

My brother has taken me to hospital today and we've waited for almost 3 hours now. He hasn't commented anything about this and has asked me if I want him to come in with me for the appointment and reassured that it's no problem. What you have said has made me realise that it doesn't have anything to do with age to be supported.

Thank you so much, your message and the messages from others on here, has made me feel a lot better about this xxx