Omg - newly diagnosed with breast cancer

Diagnosed today breast cancer!  Omg  stage 1 do hopeful feel more for my family ! Telling them was the worst

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    Hi Loniemelan,

    A very warm welcome to our forum. I am so sorry to hear of your diagnosis today and know just wht a shock this seems at the time. Have you been told what type of breast cancer you have? It is good that you have caught it early, so it should be easily treated.

    Have you discussed anything about surgery or treatment yet? I have had 2 bouts of breast cancer in the past 11 years and know just how hard it is to break this news to your loved ones. However, it is best that they know and, can support you through this.

    You should find this easier to deal with now that you are no longer waiting for results, but beginning to fight it and moving forward. Please keep in touch along your journey. We are always here for you on bad days as well as good.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

  • Hello @Loniemelan, 

    I understand how you feel. I started panic after I got a recall letter to repeat mammogram as they found something in my right breast. That night I couldn’t sleep thinking about the worse thing scenario. 

    Had second mammogram then ultrasound. The breast doctor found a lump in my left breast but it looks like gel it’s not  solid. Right breast she found small lump that needs biopsy. 

    The biopsy result it was 7mm grade 1 breast cancer and was scheduled for breast operation on 16th December 2020.

    Last week done all the 5 sessions of radiotherapy and now I feel relieve knowing that I start my long journey of “5 years contract” of taking Tamoxifen and mammogram once a year.

    Don't panic. Stay calm. Try to think positive that one day you will get over with this trials. If you need someone you can chat with and if you want to ask question please feel free to ask me don’t hesitate and I will answer you honestly. 

    Hope this message is a bit of help to you to carry on all the treatment your breast team offered for your recovery.

    Good luck and keep  safe. X 

    LL2011

  • Hi Loniemelan  

    I'm sorry to hear of your diagnosis.

    I came across this post as I was searching to a question of how can they diagnose before the pathology results. 

    I found a lump in left breast Monday, GP that afternoon, referral and next day at a cancellation with the consultant. 

    The rest is a bit of a blur to be honest. Mammogram, scan, biopsy, another mammogram and then back to the consultant who told me (no probably mentioned) that I have breast cancer!  Wta*?!   How can this be? I was convinced it was a cyst!  He mentioned MRI (booked for 1wks time) then back to him on the Thursday 2-days after the MRI.  He spoke of an operation, removal of some lymph nodes (standard practice?? Is it??), radiotherapy ... all before my blood and biopsy results

    The post in the forum that answered yes the can, has helped me to realise that yes, they do this day in and day out, of course they know what they feel and see each day, especially if not 'unusual' in anyway, but could he be wrong?

    I'm still in a state of shock to be honest and feel sick to my stomach. My husband who is so glass half empty was prepared for what came out of the consultants mouth, and so has been a rock in the past 24hr whirlwind.

    Tried to go to work as if a normal day, didn't go to plan so cancelled a few meetings and left a few hours early as not my normal self and so just said feeling unwell and would be fine my tomorrow.  

    My 28yr old son just started a new job yesterday and so not sure how or what to tell him. He's always been quite adamant not hide anything from him, and no matter how small to tell him so things aren't a shock to him. Is now the time to tell him? So soon and before the biopsy results?

    I really would appreciate any insights - Carole x

  • Hi Carole,

    This is the worst time for you, when all you have is unanswered questions. If you read the posts of people on here, who had their experience of breast cancer a while ago, and who are now getting on with the rest of their lives you will realise that your current feelings and fears are absolutely normal.
    Regarding telling your son, he needs to know, but it might be better not to say anything before you have calmed down and can tell it in a positive way. 7mm, Grade 1 really is positive, although it doesn't feel like that now. 
    My kids took it badly, despite the fact that I was, strangely, not frightened or worried. I put that down to my being older and more accepting of the chance of such news coming my way. I was just glad it had been found early enough to be treated. My own parents both learned of their cancers too late and we had no time to get used to the news before they became extremely poorly.  One thing I have found out is that adult children can be worse than the most overprotective parent EVER!  
    Happily, I am one of the millions of survivors of cancer getting on with their lives, now. I had the surgery, I was lucky in that I didn't need Chemotherapy as it might not be beneficial for my age group, and, because I had elected for a mastectomy, I didn't need radiotherapy.  I just have to take a daily tablet for five years. My children have totally got over their worries about cancer now - they are just driving me crazy, now, about staying home so I don't get Covid! 
    I hope you get all your answers and your treatment plan, soon, because you will feel better once you realise you are in control of it.

    Best of luck!  In a few months time, you might be writing on here, like this, to someone feeling as you do now.

    Christine xxx