Hi, removing the nodes is common, the nodes are a gateway to the rest of the body. All being well they are clear....good luck.....xx

Thanks so much for ur reply. Feel a bit lost about what's to be expected etc

That's understandable, your mum has only just been diagnosed. The beginning is really difficult. Once your mum has her treatment plan things will settle into place and a routine will be set. 

Are you able to accompany her on appointments? X

No, I live 4hours away but she has my dad. She says she's happiest to go to the appointments alone though. My dad drives her to hospital as it is an hour and 20 mins away. 

Hi, As Marlyn says, this is the worst time in a cancer journey. You will all feel less frightened and more in control once you have some answers to all the questions you are asking. It is normal to check the lymph nodes and doesn't mean the cancer has spread. 
I think it will be harder for you than for your mum, to be honest. My grown up children were totally freaked out at the beginning. My daughter lives nearby but my son lives 200miles away and he moved up to stay with his sister and be with me at appointments and to look after me after my surgery and as much as I loved seeing him every day, I would have preferred to go to appointments alone - in fact I did go alone for my first one when the diagnosis was made because I knew what it was going to be and knew it would shock them. Also being looked after had its ups and downs. The food was excellent but I felt like I was under house arrest they were both so smothering!

Now, three months down the line, I get a weekly FaceTime call from him and my daughter is back to bringing her dog for day care- back to normal! Thank goodness

The reality is not as bad as the anticipation, so support your mum but don't smother her. She will have a few months of discomfort and hospital appointments but hopefully that will be it as it sounds like it has been caught early  

Best wishes and good luck!

xx