Thanks so much for ur reply. Feel a bit lost about what's to be expected etc

That's understandable, your mum has only just been diagnosed. The beginning is really difficult. Once your mum has her treatment plan things will settle into place and a routine will be set. 

Are you able to accompany her on appointments? X

No, I live 4hours away but she has my dad. She says she's happiest to go to the appointments alone though. My dad drives her to hospital as it is an hour and 20 mins away. 

Hi, As Marlyn says, this is the worst time in a cancer journey. You will all feel less frightened and more in control once you have some answers to all the questions you are asking. It is normal to check the lymph nodes and doesn't mean the cancer has spread. 
I think it will be harder for you than for your mum, to be honest. My grown up children were totally freaked out at the beginning. My daughter lives nearby but my son lives 200miles away and he moved up to stay with his sister and be with me at appointments and to look after me after my surgery and as much as I loved seeing him every day, I would have preferred to go to appointments alone - in fact I did go alone for my first one when the diagnosis was made because I knew what it was going to be and knew it would shock them. Also being looked after had its ups and downs. The food was excellent but I felt like I was under house arrest they were both so smothering!

Now, three months down the line, I get a weekly FaceTime call from him and my daughter is back to bringing her dog for day care- back to normal! Thank goodness

The reality is not as bad as the anticipation, so support your mum but don't smother her. She will have a few months of discomfort and hospital appointments but hopefully that will be it as it sounds like it has been caught early  

Best wishes and good luck!

xx

Thank you so much for ur reply. It's good to hear your perspective. It's a similar case with me. I have a sister who lives about 45 mins away from my parents too. 
Yesterday was a very tough day but today seems a little better/brighter. My mom is one of my favourite people and  my mind just went down a slippery slope when I heard her diagnosis but I'm trying to be more positive. 
They had intended on removing the lump regardless of the result so I need to remember that. 
My brother is in San Francisco and my parents had intended on visiting but they postponed the trip due to fears of coronavirus in airports etc. If they had gone on the trip she would have missed her mammogram checkup. That in itself is a blessing.