I have just been diagnosed with stage 4 secondary liver cancer. I felt I was in free fall whe I was told a few ago. I want to run but I can't.  We are a member of a club we do not want to be in and yet more that a third of people will get cancer. It's terrifying. I'm finding hard it to be the sick one too. I'm the fixer and doer in my family and I can't get used to not being that person any more. 

I wish you good luck with treatment. I also find Maggie's centre invaluable for counseling at the moment they have save me a few times ️

Hello 747, my heart goes out to you, I can feel the free fall you are feeling. Thank you for taking the time to write to me. I wish you the strength to bear this without such anguish and hope you find the support you need. x

Thank you. Keep in touch and let me know how you are doing too x

Sheltie lady

Welcome!  I am very much in a similar position in that the thought of dying doesn't phase me but that said I'd rather not feel absolutely crap until that time comes, so far so not-too-bad!

I get the impression you're probably an optimist too, and think that is serving me and those who support me well too.

I also had some tears when telling close friends (they should make a movie of when you told your 3 chums - "3 birthdays and a cancer announcement "not sure where Hugh Grant would play a role however), funny when you're the one with the "news" and end up telling them it will be OK.

I do hope that you don't have it too bad personally but also for your poor daughter & families sake by the sounds of things ( I am a perfect patient!).

I only have BC in RHS but want both removed & reconstructed for smaller, more manageable boobs!  I look on it as an opportunity as would have never have done anything otherwise (far too much of a practical, tight, northerner).

Sam 
 

Hey you! Yours was the first post I ever read on this forum and I recognised a kindred spirit although I’m a Lancashire returnee, having worked and lived all over the world but now happily ensconced in the beautiful Lancashire countryside. Still Northern grit!

I love the movie idea!! Hugh would have to be a Sheltie, though. 

I had a surprise just now, as my daughter just admitted she was absolutely shell shocked by my news.  I thought she had been feigning her optimism before my tests to make me feel better but I had no idea she really believed I would be told it was nothing to worry about. No wonder her brother phoned me within minutes of her leaving here. She must have called him from the car before she left my drive.  I feel sorry about that as I hate to worry her.  She’s getting her head round it now and said she’s glad my support network is building but they are only the backing group, and she’s the number one I call. My best friend, the one who burst into tears has been in touch with her, too, offering her support, that’s really pleased me as they probably need more support from each other than I do  

We've decided not to tell anyone else until I have details and after an upcoming family wedding. 

I’m going to start on that film script now. Lol!

That did make me laugh, i had both breasts done, I now have the pert breasts of a 20 year old, ony problem is that I dont have the face to match - i do think this is something the surgeon should remedy at the same time :)

I agree, I can think of a few things I’d like done at the same time!! My sister once got a surgeon to pierce her ears while operating on her neck! 

I like the idea of pert breasts. I was always the one with the big knockers!

I agree, I can think of a few things I’d like done at the same time!! My sister once got a surgeon to pierce her ears while operating on her neck! 

I like the idea of pert breasts. I was always the one with the big knockers!

Got to say my surgeon was brilliant - tennis sized lumpectomies and no one could ever tell looking at them.