Hi BigJean,

A very warm welcome to our forum, although I'm sorry for the reason you've joined. I hope that your results on Tuesday can help to put your mind at rest. Even if the news is not so good, it helps to know what the next moves are and puts a more positive slant on things.

I suspect that the pain in your back is consequential to your diagnosis. We always seem to think the worst and develop all sorts of additional symptoms. In most cases this seems to be due to stress.

I have lost my mum to breast cancer and, have had 2 bouts myself within the past 9 years. Waiting for results is always one of the most stressful times of a cancer journey. Try to keep yourself distracted by other pursuits and do your best to stay away from Google. The fact that you are healthy and have never smoked, should stand you in good stead with any treatment needed.

Do please keep in touch and let us know how you get on on Tuesday. We are always here for you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Hi Jolamine ,

thank you for your kind words . I’m so sorry you lost your mum and you going through it twice . I am not going to let it get me down just back from a big walk with my family and I feel great . That’s the weird thing I don’t feel sick at all . 

I’ll let you know how I get on on Tuesday but I am ready to fight 

talk soon xx

hi don't be daft I'm a coward no one likes an operation but when they give you the premed it calms you as you know and you will feel like you have only been asleep 5 minutes that's what my second operation was like yes you can buy stickers or the tin I could not put it in the basket for some reason but I will call them once I get my treatment I hope you are more relaxed I'm sure you will be fine lorraine xx

Hi Jolamine, 

thank you for your kind words. It’s great being home . Still not sleeping great but can cope with that . Hopefully the drain will be out on Friday. 

Hope you are keeping well and your son is recovering well also 

Kindest Regards 

j xx

Hi Lorraine 

yes, that was my experience for the lumpectomy I had a couple of weeks ago. The anaesthetist was lovely - asked me what gin was my favourite as I drifted off! I spent a while sleeping as I understand they gave me morphine but mercifully I wasn’t sick (another one of my fears on the long list) so whatever combination they gave me really worked.

wishing you a good & positive day today

Helen xx

hi warrior yes the antithesis are good asked me what's your happy place answered in my garden said what kind of flowers was out I never answered lol it's great you have replied and messaged everyone on here so supportive jolamine is so supportive she is waiting on a test big jean lovely too they are brave had a bigger operation than myself yet they take to message you I hope your feeling calmer Lorraine xx

Hello Lorraine 

Yes everyone is so kind on here - yourself included. It really makes you have faith in humankind to see that despite having battles of their own, people can still take the time to be so supportive to others.

I hope you’re still enjoying your garden despite the weather getting a bit colder now. It’s the simple things in life that don’t cost a fortune that are the most important when it all boils down to it isn’t it?

Take care

Helen xx

hi warrior well I'm on my own got divorced met my second partner 15 years ago he died I got on perfect with him sadly he had heart failure my mum is 80 in early dementia when I can't go and see her i call her every day to say I'm coming down etc or meet at her bus stop I go into town once a week with mum do her shopping she has her wee chihuahua she got a clip board you wipe gp appointment etc her pills in a pill dispenser 7 days marked mon to sun so she knows she's taken them I only allowed my mum once up to hospital when I was first diagnosed she was shaking as she has hardening of the arteries in her head arthritis she's not able I had to get a porter to take her along with me when I knew I was getting second operation my sister in st.andrews took her for a week to keep her calm my mum and I are close up to now she's coping but very forgetful and she had a good neighbour too which makes all the difference my breast is still tender bruised inside but if it's not raining this Sunday cut some dead shrubs down I have white heather seeded roses fern tree weeping willow tree daisies lots of different shrubs I can't spell lol but it's beautiful spring summer I'm glad you like the site it's been a god send for me too lorraine xx

Oh my goodness Lorraine. You have known some sadness in your life - I’m so sorry, but you are clearly a warrior too and am sure a godsend to your mum. I do hope she is ok too - it sounds as though she has support around her too which is so important, and she’ll know too that you’re supporting her in the ways that you’re able to at the moment.

Your garden sounds beautiful- and you sound too as tho you know what you’re doing in it. I’m really glad it gives you so much pleasure & that you can enjoy it next spring & summer when it’s at its best. I hope you get good weather on Sunday. Xx

ty my sister has a 3 bedroom house in st.andrews all her family drive as I'm not seeing treatment doctors until the 18th of November my niece is taking myself and mum for 10 days I cleaned all the house washing up to date etc case packed think it's just what I need mum too I will do garden when I come back yes love working in my garden think once you reach 40 no more discos lol bars you get a hobby I feel alone at times but yet I like being on my own now can do what I like miss Tom every day but I have very good memories of him just want like you to be health6 I'm 58 but looking at your photo your only 40s nice photo I hope all goes well for you email you when I come back not talking my iPad arthritis in fingers would break it lol but you can chat to your friends you made good luck next week you will be fine take care lorraine xx

Hi Helen,

I'm glad to hear that Steve accompanies you to all of your appointments and, asks most of the pertinent questions. Many of us also find it helpful to write down questions before each appointment. Both you and Steve could draw them up together. This ensures that you don't forget to ask important questions.

I used to go armed with two copies of the questions - one for myself and one for hubby. As I asked the questions he wrote down the answers. It's a well known fact that we only manage to retain a small amount of information from any consultation and, it's all too easy to come out not sure of what has been said. The consultants are quite used to this.

I am glad to hear that you have already begun to re-evaluate the important things in life and, that you  have friends who are looking out for both of you.

It is always difficult getting to grips with the terminology. If we can help in any way, you only have to ask. Don't be afraid of asking your consultant anything you don't understand. Sometimes they get so used to dealing with cancer routinely, that they can forget that it is all new to you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

I’m so glad you’re going to spend some time with your family Lorraine. I’m sure that will be really lovely for you & a great distraction. Your home will be all ready for you to return to, too - how organised you are! I’m sure your loving memories of Tom will help you through this very difficult time in your life until your 100% healthy again. It’s nice of you to say I look as though I’m in my 40s! I’ve just turned 52. The lighting was good in that picture! Will catch up with you when you’re back home again, but you’re in my thoughts. Xx

I’m so glad you’re going to spend some time with your family Lorraine. I’m sure that will be really lovely for you & a great distraction. Your home will be all ready for you to return to, too - how organised you are! I’m sure your loving memories of Tom will help you through this very difficult time in your life until your 100% healthy again. It’s nice of you to say I look as though I’m in my 40s! I’ve just turned 52. The lighting was good in that picture! Will catch up with you when you’re back home again, but you’re in my thoughts. Xx