Caroline, I know exactly how you feel, especially with the time lapse between getting a GP appointment to refer you and the excisional biopsy of your melanoma. I personally have found the entire process very slow, so I understand your concerns. I too have a stage 1 Melanoma [1A] invasive. Original biopsy 11 October, 16 weeks after seeking help. My wide excisional procedure required is not until 3 January 2025. Like you, this worries me, well the entire situation worries me, with so many of us being diagnosed with cancer. I am pleased you have an appointment next week to discuss your treatment plan in more detail. Try to think about what you want to ask, I didn't do this, and am having to do this now. Have you seen your pathology report? Not sure if you were seen at a specific cancer hospital. Did they check your lymph nodes at your first consultation to begin the diagnosis journey? I asked to see my pathology report, and although I did not understand all of it, margins, numbers, clark level etc, what I did gleam from it, was a better understanding to ask more questions, invasive remarks, prompted questions I would not have thought of. I don't know about you, but I was so focused on the fact I had cancer and terrified of what I may be told, I couldn't think of questions to ask at the time, I was simply nodding and in shock. So please, before you go to see your consultant this week think about what you want to know, ask and IF it helps write them down. This is very frightening time which does not help us to be as clear headed as we would like. Keep me posted and all the very best to you. 

Thank you so much for your reply.  It does help to know that someone else is in the same situation.
 I actually had three suspicious looking moles, and of the three, the doctor was convinced that one was a basal cell carcinoma, as it was flesh coloured.  That was the one that turned out to be the melanoma.  So far, I’ve only seen a dermatologist, but on Thursday, I am seeing a plastic surgeon.  I live in N Wales, and my nearest major hospital is 40 miles away.  The consultant I am seeing on Thursday is in N W England, although he is holding a clinic in my local hospital in Wales.  I will have to travel 80 miles for the surgery though.
The specialist nurse who gave me the results this week did give me quite a thorough examination, including the lymph nodes.
i haven’t seen my pathology report, but it’s a good idea to request a copy.  At the moment, I almost don’t want to know, but there’s no hiding from the facts, and as you say, it gives you a good basis for asking for clarification.  
i will keep in touch to let you know how I get on.  Good luck with your procedure in January.  The waiting is almost unbearable, but it will be December tomorrow, which makes it feel closer.

Do keep me posted about your own treatment too.  All the very best for 3 January.

Hi Caroline,

I've sent you a friend request so that, if you want to ask/chat about melanoma we can do so by private message. Grannyrose has given you two great melanoma resources to look at - I especially suggest Melanoma Focus as they also have a Melanoma Nurse Helpline that can be rung if you need any answers from clinicians about your treatment etc.

Take care,

Angie

Thanks Angie.  I'm happy to communicate by private message, but not sure how it works, as I'm new to this forum.  Where do I see your request?   ️

Great advice, GrannyRose.  I actually joined Zoe Nutrition 2 years ago, and have changed a lot of things about the way I eat.  Radically cut down on Ultra Processed Foods, loads more fibre, and I eat many more nuts, seeds and plant-based meals, although I still eat fish and meat, just not as often. Also lots of fermented foods to help the gut.  Hopefully that has put me in a good place health-wise, although Christmas is always difficult to navigate healthily!

Thanks also for the website references.  I'll definitely have a good look at those.

Caroline ️

Hi Caroline,

In the top right corner of your screen you will see a bell icon. That should have a number against it to tell you that there is a notification waiting for you. Click on the bell & you can open the request & click to accept it.

Sorry, Angie, I can’t see a bell icon on my screen. I’m not ignoring your request, but I’ll keep trying.  

Right, I’ve found the bell icon in the drop-down menu, but it says there are no notifications, so maybe it takes a while to filter through.  

Hit "view all" as it sometimes seems to mark things as read when you've only accidentally hovered over it.

Tried that and it’s just bringing me back to this thread.

Unfortunately, I’m  getting nowhere trying to find your request to me, so I’ve tried to reverse the process by sending a friend request to you. Let’s hope that works!

No worries, I've accepted your request & sent you a message x

No worries, I've accepted your request & sent you a message x