Hi there! I was told I have cancer yesterday - I need to wait for mri etc to determine prognosis and treatment. I also have two young children and I can say I feel exactly the same as you. I have been throwing up from anxiety and haven't slept. Trying to act normally around my children is hard.

Sorry I can't give you any coping strategies as I am.struggling with it myself. Just wanted to say I know how you feel and dealing with unknown is torture. Here if you need to chat. Sending love xx

Thank u so much for your reply, it’s nice to hear from someone else, but I’m so sorry u are going through the same thing. I think once we have all the info and a plan we will feel better but this initial part is just torture. How old are your kids? I have 2 boys, 3 year old and 18 month old x

Agreed. I kinda hoped when they said - it's cancer - then a door would open and I would get tests and something more concrete to work with. But this waiting is just awful and I'm not even 24hrs in to it. 

I also have 2 boys but they are 6 and 8. That's quite a lot of stress on your shoulders with toddlers xx

So sorry to hear what you are going through, especially with young children. I also kept feeling other symptoms and thinking cancer had spread. I'm sure it was just anxiety, as all calmed down after ct scan results came back OK. Unfortunately there is a lot of waiting while tests are carried out, before treatment starts. I was diagnosed on 18th January and waiting to start chemo in the next couple of weeks. I wish you well moving forward and hope you don't have to wait too long for your results. Xx

Yeah they are a handful but my husband has been great x

Thanks Pippin24, I know logically they are most likely due to anxiety but it just all gets on top of me several times a day and I feel so panicked.
I hope u get a start date soon, all the best x

I've just received a call to say my chemo starts on Monday 4th March which is good. In the first couple of weeks I had severe anxiety, but found the breast care nurses very supportive. I found anxiety did lesson as time went on and I got more information. I have also been talking to macmillan nurses I was put in touch with at oncology appointment, they have been great. I really feel for you, I know it's such a difficult time. Xx

That’s really great news, I imagine it must feel good to start tackling it. I have spoken to my breast care nurse and she was really lovely and helpful. Thanks so much for your kind words, they mean a lot x

You're welcome, hope you get on OK. Xx

I’m really really struggling today, worst day so far, I didn’t sleep at all last night, I cannot calm down my heart rate and breathing. I’m convinced I’m going to die, I feel so hopeless…