Oncologist appointment tomorrow - what questions should I ask?

After being diagnosed on 18th January and going through all the various test, I finally get to see the oncologist tomorrow. Would like to hear from anyone who has any suggestions about what questions would be good to ask. 

Also what are your experiences of how long it took for treatment to start after first oncology appointment. As my breast cancer is grade 3 and fast growing, I'm worried about it spreading, before my treatment even gets started. 

Was it suggested you have a PICC line or port?

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  • Having a stressful day today. Had my pre chemo consultation by phone today. Went well with lots of information given about what to expect.  However, I did forget to mention about some niggling breast pain I've been having. They come and go, sometimes slightly shooting pain. Did phone breast care nurses last week, who said probably due to all the biopsies I had. They were done a few weeks ago, so wondered if pains would only start happening in the last week. So annoyed with myself, even had it written down. I know I can mention on Monday, but will now have to go through two more days of stress!!

  • Hi Pippin 24, I think every little niggling pain is a worry when you're in the position that we are, try not to worry hopefully the chemotherapy will start to work killing all of the harmful cancer cells,  hope everything goes well for you on Monday,   I'm anxious at the moment waiting for my PET scan results on Friday the 8th xx

  • Good luck today Pippin.  Hope everything goes well for you. xx

  • Thank you Carol, all went well. Xx

  • Hi there, i've just been reading your thread. I really hope you're getting on ok with your treatment. I've had a lumptomy and have now been told i need 3 rounds EC and 3 rounds Docetaxel so very similar to you and the others on this thread. I just wanted to say that i'm thinking of you  and really hope side effects are kept to a minimum. I'm seeing my oncologist today so hopefully i'll have more of an idea on start dates etc...just feels very surreal that i'm chatting to my friends about wigs and things! Debating doing the cold cap and can't decide. My hair is really thin already. Will chat to oncologist later..anyway i just wanted to say good luck with your treatment and hope you are out the other side soon. Let us know how you're getting on and any tricks or tips would be very much appreciated as i'm not far behind you!!

    Take care xx

  • Hi Greeny80, so far so good with the first treatment, no sickness at the moment.  Glad to hear you have already got through your surgery. I had hoped to do that first myself, but they wanted to do chemo first for me. I was offered cold cap treatment but decided against it, as I'm already prone to headaches. I also feel the cold and thought the cold cap would make the treatment sessions too much for me to cope with. I'm all set with my wig and some nice hats, hopefully hair will grow back quickly after treatment finishes. I have bought a product called ploybalm to help reduce nail damage  it was recommended to me by someone on this site. I've researched it a bit and think it's worth a try. Apparently Docetaxel can be harsh on the nails, so I've already started using it to hopefully strengthen them up now. Hope all goes well with your oncology appointment today, let me know how it goes. Xx

  • Awww thanks for the update hun, so glad you are feeling OK and keeping fingers and toes crossed this carries on for you x 

  • Thank you. Went for a lovely 40 minute walk with hubby. Had a snooze after lunch. Just prepped dinner and now chilling watching telly. When is your mri appointment?

  • That was last Tuesday hun, but haven't heard anything back. I am with Oncology Friday morning. I have noticed on my NHS app that I am on the waiting list for geriatric medicine but have no clue what that is about. I am only 40 . Sound like a lovely chilled out day hun. I recommend the Jury on channel 4 if you haven't seen it yet 

  • Hopefully you'll find out a bit more info on Friday. Not heard of geriatric medicine, that will be a question to ask. Will have to have a look at the Jury, always need good recommendations. Let me know how Friday goes. Xx

  • Hi Pippin,

    Well, hat's the first session over and you're on your way. I am glad to hear that you coped ok today and that you didn't have any nausea. Let's hope that this sets the pattern for the rest!

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

  • Thanks so much for the ploybalm intel will take a look! I’m due to start chemo on the 19th!…so I’m not far behind you!!

     So glad to hear your first round went ok..Hope you’re feeling ok today too and that you can breeze through it! Keep us posted!

    going to get my hair chopped this week and look at some wigs - all feels very surreal!! Xx

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  • Thanks so much for the ploybalm intel will take a look! I’m due to start chemo on the 19th!…so I’m not far behind you!!

     So glad to hear your first round went ok..Hope you’re feeling ok today too and that you can breeze through it! Keep us posted!

    going to get my hair chopped this week and look at some wigs - all feels very surreal!! Xx

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  • Hi Greeny80, all has been fine apart from a slight headache all day yesterday. However, I am prone to headaches anyway, which is why I decided against the cold cap.  Had a lovely walk with hubby and was able to cook dinner. Good luck with your chemo on the 19th and with your wig shopping. I was really happy with my wig and have also bought a few nice hats. I got my hair cut short last week, still trying to get used to it. I'm  a bit apprehensive about it falling out though! Please let me know how you get on. Xx

  • Hi Pippin

    So glad you're having minimal side effects with the chemo.  I wish my ride had been the same lol.  It's been a nightmare!  But, hopefully unless they change my regime again, tomorrow is my last chemo.  I will then have surgery some time in April (what kind depends on repeat MRI scan to check the efficacy of the chemo) then 6 months of immunotherapy (Pembro).  My hair started to fall out in earnest on Day 14 after chemo.  I tend to wear scarves around the house if I have video calls, sometimes embrace the bald to let my scalp breathe and keep the wig for going "out out".  It was strange wearing a wig at first and I was very self conscious, now I'm used to it and have a little more faith that it won't just fall off lol.  I hope you continue to have minimal side effects an that your journey is a smooth one. xx

  • Hi Carol, good to hear that you have your last chemo tomorrow. I'm due to start injections in stomach tomorrow days 4-10, to build up white blood cells. I think this may bring on some extra side effects, but will have to see. Also the docetaxel is supposed to be quite harsh, so people say. Good luck with your surgery in April, please let me know how it goes. I think that is the surgery I'm supposed to be having. Xx

  • Hello everyone 

    firstly I really appreciate this group.   It is so comforting to connect with others going through the same thing. 

    I had my first EC chemo yesterday with cold cap - been an up and down reaction 

    firstly cold cap - not as scary as I thought.  First 5 minutes was like head rush , I counted and breathed through this and can liken it to contractions when in labor.  They only last so long.  After initial 5 minutes it was manageable just like a cold head.  I took paracetamol before hand    I caked my hair in conditioner ( bought one for hair loss from Avon) 

     have had a mild headache today but that could also be due to chemo or what happened next as below 

    chemo going in was absolutely fine.  Was tired after but likely more from not sleeping night prior due to worry and anxiety 

    however by around 5 pm I experienced swelling in my throat and struggled to swallow. I could breathe and drink water but phoned chemo team and they advised a and e 

    spent 12 hours in hospital. ECG and chest x ray clear.  Pumped with antibiotics , anti histamine and saline.   My tonsils are inflamed so using the mouthwash. I am prescribed anti sickness day 1-3 and also steroids day 1-4 so at moment not sure what meds have triggered reaction.  I am allergic to penicillin and Diclofenac and reaction was same.  
    swelling reduced following anti histamine 

    anyhow stored today and mild headache 

    im using the polybalm on my nails - thanks for tip Pippin. 
    eating very little and soups mainly but that is due to throat.  

    wishing everyone else the very best in their journeys xx

    norma 

  • Oh gosh that sounds a bit scary. It's so hard not quite knowing how you're going to react to these drugs and everyone reacts so differently. I really hope they can work out which specific drug is triggering that reaction, sounds horrid you poor thing. I hope you're doing a little better now and that's a bit more under control...do you have 3 week cycles or 2 weeks? Really hope you start to feel better soon. 

    Thank you for sharing the info on the cold cap - i think i'm going to try it and see how i go although i've got super fine hair anway i'm not sure it really stands a chance!!

    Take care xx

  • Hi NGS, so sorry to hear you have had such a hard time after your first treatment. Hopefully this is a one off and it will be better after next cycle. I'm due to start injections tomorrow until day 10 to boost white blood cells. Apparently I could get some side effects from this, so will have to see how that goes. Had another lovely walk with hubby today, which was nice. I too have been using the polybalm and am really hoping it helps to avoid too much nail damage. Really hope the cold cap works for you. I decided against it as already get headaches anyway, so thought it would be too difficult. Have my wig and hats ready. Hope you start to feel better soon. Xx

  • Sorry Pippin i replied to you and then asked whether you used a cold cap but i know you have told us a million times that you haven't used one! Sorry i clearly have chemo brain before starting the chemo!!!!!

    Glad you got out for a walk today, that sounds lovely. How tired are you feeling or has the tiredness not been affected? Sounds like you're doing well! Fab news...will have a look at the polybalm! xx

  • I did snooze on and off yesterday, but today I've been fine. Think this is due to a better night's sleep  last night. Don't worry about asking same question, it's hard to keep track of what you've said to who on here. Xx

  • Hi Greeny 

    I started on 19 th as well.  I hope you have gotten on ok.  It’s very surreal - I too had my very long curly hair cut short.  It’s weird being so upset my cutting hair in the grand scheme of things isn’t it. 

    wishing you well

    Norma x 

  • Thankyou so much for kind words. Im Feeling better today just a fuzzy head 

     I have started the injections today for 7 days in total. Was told to have them after 5 pm as can cause bone pain so if so best just to go to bed.  Will let you know how it goes but so far so good 

    xxx