Feel scared and lost

Am 72 and just diagnosed with breast cancer after biopsy, awaiting follow up and treatment plan appointment next week. I live on my own - my wonderful son has his own cancer problems and is 300 miles away - am lucky to have good friends locally but still feel alone. I thought I was a strong person but realise now Im not and am constantly anxious . I think it could help me to be in contact with others who have been on this path, and hope that at some point in the future I can help someone else. Just now I'm finding it hard to just get through the days until my appointment, let alone thinking any further.

I'm so grateful to anyone who might read or reply to this post.

Thank you

S

  • Thank you. You could also call your care team for support, the nurses are so lovely. I'm actually going to phone today as having a bit of a panic, after reading some of the literature I was given. I am so anxious about ct scan results, the waiting driving me mad! Xx

  • I'm the same I had my pet scan on Thursday and I'm so terrified of what it's going to show , can't sleep or constraint on anything , I've my lung biopsy on Friday , I know exactly what your going through , sending love and hugs x

  • Thank you DEF, I've just phoned and left a message for my breast cancer nurse, hopefully they will be able to give me a bit of reassurance. Just need my ct scan results to confirm that it hasn't spread anywhere else.. I hope you don't have to wait too long for your results either, the waiting is just awful!

  • Hi pippin did U get any answers , hope your feeling a bit more positive , I've had a terrible teary day ,I want to stay positive but until I know all results I'm finding it so hard , ,I pray you have got the best results possible from your nurse x  

  • Hi DEF, it's been an emotional couple of days. MDT meeting today discussed my scan results and Breastcare nurse phoned me this afternoon. My scan show no evidence of secondary breast cancer, which is such a relief. There was a couple of small nodules on my lung(apparently not uncommon) and a small cyst on my liver, which they're not concerned about. They will re-scan me in another 3 months. The second lot of biopsies they did last week on breast tissue shows low grade cancer cells. This makes no difference as having a mastectomy rather than lumpectomy. Must admit I did have a good cry today, but now feel much better. Hope to get a better night's sleep than last night.  Next step is oncology appointment 14th February, hopefully will find out when treatment is expected to start. Hope you get results on your PET scan soon, it is so stressful waiting for results. Hope all goes well with your biopsy on Friday, please let me know how it goes. Xx

  • Hello.

    I do think it's very difficult waiting for results and appointments. It's hard to be strong when you are facing the unknown but I'm sure you will reconnect with your inner strength . I do agree that taking it a day at a time is helpful. You can call in the support of your breast nurses . They are in my experience very supportive and knowledgeable.  I was diagnosed with a Triple Negative tumour when I had my second year follow up mammogram  after I'd had  a lumpectomy for an ER positive cancer in lockdown.I found this very difficult at first .but I am in a much more positive frame of mind . Am now discharged to annual follow ups .  I do feel for you.  Hoping all goes well at your appointment and that once you know your treatment plan you will feel more comfortable because things will actually be happening to help with your recovery.  Sending lots of positive thoughts and good wishes.  

  • Hi DEF,

    I shall be thinking of you on Friday and I hope that all goes as well as it can.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

  • Hi Pippin,

    I hope that you'll begin to feel a bit better, now that you know what you have to deal with. I am delighted to hear that no secondary cancer was found and I am sure that this must be a great relief. It's not that long now until your oncology appointment and, here's hoping that your treatment can start soon after that.

    Please let us know how you get on. In the meantime, you know that we are always here for you.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

  • HI Voirrey,

    A very warm welcome to the forum.

    I am sorry to hear that you had a second cancer and understand just how disparaging that can feel. I had a second cancer in the same breast, just a year after the original one. I too found this very difficult to cope with at first, but am in a better place now. I have been very fortunate, in that I am now 14 years down the line and I still lead a busy and fulfilling life. Did you have another lumpectomy or a mastectomy? I had a double mastectomy for my second bout.

    Sending you my best wishes and hoping that things are more straightforward from here on in.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx