My cancer is different to yours but I hear you and can relate to the anxiety and feeling alone. I think that not thinking too far ahead is a good approach.  I have found that taking one day at a time is working for me - some days bring challenges and others are quite mundane by comparison, but you must be kind to yourself.  Allow yourself to time to adjust and I’m sure you will feel better once you know your treatment plan.  Sending you positive vibes and hoping for the best outcome for you.  You will surprise yourself with your strength I’m sure xxx

Hi Suez,

A very warm welcome to our forum.

I am so sorry to hear that you have received a cancer diagnosis and that your son has his own battles with cancer too. Do you know what type, or stage, your breast cancer is? Most of us would agree that this is one of the hardest parts of our cancer journey. This is possibly because there are so many unknowns to deal with. 

I have no doubt that you are a strong person. We don't always know how strong we are, until being strong is the only choice we have. When challenged like this, we find hidden depths, that we never even knew we had. You will find it gets easier once you know what treatment you'll be having and can get on with things. I am glad to hear that you have good friends locally, but we don't always want to burden them with our woes. Many people find it easier to chat here amongst virtual strangers, who know exactly how you feel, because we have experienced it first hand. You need never feel alone, now that you have found us, as there's always someone here for you.

Please keep in touch and let us know know you get on with your treatment plans next week. We are always here for you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Hello, I have just been diagnosed with breast cancer too, with treatment to be confirmed on the 6th. I'm 33. If you would like to send me a private message I'd always be happy to talk, and if we are near to each other we could meet for a coffee or something. I'll be thinking of you x

Hello celtictrace

Gosh, how wonderful to get this lovely message from you, thank you so much. Your advice is so sensible - I've always tended to jump ahead I guess it's a defence mechanism but does backfire of course. Guess from your name you are a Scottish girl, good to hear, I'm from the South coast. Feeling down today as it's so grey but your positive vibes can only help. By the way, being called Suez was a mistake of mine - it should read Suze but I mistyped in my hurry to register here ! 

How are you and how far are you along your treatment path ? I would love to keep in touch with you, the first person to reach out to me on this site and believe me you're cherished ! Tell me anything you like - the first time you laughed after your diagnosis, what you do to keep mind and body occupied or just anything you like.

Much love and the very best of wishes to you xxx

Hello Ruth, it's so kind of you to respond to me and I'd love to keep in touch and talk on the site or private message , I live in West Sussex so we may be far apart but we can still talk. The 6th is very close (,mine either 9 or 12th as far as I know) for your appointment - do let me know how you get on, I hope we can support each other. By the way in my haste to register I put 'Suez' as my name, it should have been 'Suze' but I was in a rush to register - much better. 

I do so hope it goes well for you on the 6th - will be thinking of you, do please keep in touch. I do appreciate you reaching out to me. Love xxxx

Thank you Jolamine - just to know there are people out there helps although at the moment it all seems bleak. By the way, my name should have been Suze - I mistyped the user name in my hurry to register, never mind.

I will definitely get back to you when I get my treatment plan, for sure I shall need the support of all the kind strong people on this site

Love Sue xx

Hi Suze - I’m actually Welsh and I belong to a triathlon club called Celtic Tri so that is how my name came about.

My cancer is in my tongue and neck lymph nodes and I’m due to have surgery on Friday. My first surgery date had to be pushed back due to complications after having wisdom teeth out (you couldn’t mak e it up). Whether I need radiotherapy afterwards will depend on the results of the surgery  so I’m keeping everything crossed!

When I was first diagnosed I thought it was the end of the world but I’ve always had a good sense of humour and I’ve used this often when thinking of the future. I can honestly say that I laugh every day, mostly at my dog who is the best therapy!

My cancer journey has taken many twists and turns and this is why I found it best not to think too far ahead. I have found myself wasting so much energy on worrying about things that never happened that I decided the one day at a time approach was the way forward.  

Your appointment day will be here before you know it and I’m sure you will feel so much better after it - I know I did.  I went from being on the verge of hysteria to feeling hopeful and more in control.  I hope it’s the same for you.

Please let me know how it goes and feel free to get in touch any time.

Sending hugs 

Trace xx

Oh Trace

Just an indication of how my brain has gone when saying you must be Scottish - so sorry ! I should have thought it out, my boy lives in Wales (Dolgellau) and I often visit.

You sound such a positive person (a triathlete, wow), what you said about feeling world ending and wasting energy worrying are so true. I so hope it all goes well for you on Friday, your positivity (if that's a word?) will be a huge help. Let me know how you get on please and I will do the same. 

Thanks so much for taking time to contact me again, cant tell you how much that means to me

Suze xxx

Hi Suze, thank you! I am waiting for the results of the HER2 marker then will know if it's chemo first or surgery first. I have an MRI on Monday and then an appointment with the fertility clinic on Tuesday too. It's a lot to take in so just taking it day by today. Today being a day for Easter eggs and not much else! 

I will send you a request so I can private message you and we can keep in touch :) I'm up in North Yorkshire but really nowhere is that far away when you can talk in forums like this I suppose. Best of luck with your appointments x  

Hi Ruth

Thank you for getting back to me so quickly. I've said yes to the private message request (not sure how it works but wanted you to know I've done it ! )  You have so much to deal with at the moment, I can only wish you well. I love North Yorkshire, I used to visit friends in Northallerton and they took me all over the dales and moors, such a beautiful area. I live a couple of miles from the sea, but as we can now private message I'll save this stuff for now. All I can say is thank you again and hope you have good news in everything you are going through. Much love

Suze xx