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Unsupportive ex husband

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this is my first time posting here. I was diagnosed with grade 2 lobular breast cancer in Dec 2021. It was a sock and I am still ckk ok Ming to terms with it. My ex husband and I decided to make a go at getting back together last April. However, when he visited last Christmas me and my grown up children, I asked if he could come over ( he is Northern Ireland) I am in London once my surgery date is confirmed, he said flat out that he cannot and there is no way he can. Yesterday I confirmed date and he said he has lot of client appointments and he may be able or not to come. Then he confirmed that he was coming but a day before surgery and returning the day after the surgery. Also, when I confirmed that it was Breast C he said: oh well it could have been a lot worse (it was early detection). I prayed to god to show me that this man still loves me, I guess not. Excuse grammar spelling etc it's 0400 in the morning and cannot sleep. Lydia (lily)

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    Hi Lily,

    A very warm welcome tor forum.

    From what you've said, it sounds as if Billy is right about your ex. Do you know what type of surgery you are having and when your date for surgery is? I hope that it is soon. This is always a worrying stage, even when you have the support of a loved one. I sincerely hope that your grown up children are more supportive. 

    I have had 2 bouts of breast cancer in the past 12 years and I still lead a busy and fulfilling life. There is no reason why you cannot do the same, especially as you've caught it early. Breast cancer is currently one of the most treatable types of cancer. Try to keep yourself busy with pastimes or odd jobs, as this will help the time to pass.

    Please keep in touch and let us know how you get on. We are always here for you.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

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    Hi Lily,

    A very warm welcome tor forum.

    From what you've said, it sounds as if Billy is right about your ex. Do you know what type of surgery you are having and when your date for surgery is? I hope that it is soon. This is always a worrying stage, even when you have the support of a loved one. I sincerely hope that your grown up children are more supportive. 

    I have had 2 bouts of breast cancer in the past 12 years and I still lead a busy and fulfilling life. There is no reason why you cannot do the same, especially as you've caught it early. Breast cancer is currently one of the most treatable types of cancer. Try to keep yourself busy with pastimes or odd jobs, as this will help the time to pass.

    Please keep in touch and let us know how you get on. We are always here for you.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

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