Hi lily .

Welcome to the club nobody wants to join .

So sorry about your diagnosis and your ex ,it seems like work comes before you im afraid . hope others will come to you to give ideas . hope you have other support around you.nomatter what keep positive and safe .

Billy 

Hi Lily,

A very warm welcome tor forum.

From what you've said, it sounds as if Billy is right about your ex. Do you know what type of surgery you are having and when your date for surgery is? I hope that it is soon. This is always a worrying stage, even when you have the support of a loved one. I sincerely hope that your grown up children are more supportive. 

I have had 2 bouts of breast cancer in the past 12 years and I still lead a busy and fulfilling life. There is no reason why you cannot do the same, especially as you've caught it early. Breast cancer is currently one of the most treatable types of cancer. Try to keep yourself busy with pastimes or odd jobs, as this will help the time to pass.

Please keep in touch and let us know how you get on. We are always here for you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

I had a cone biopsy for breast lump last tue the doctor said it looked like cancer. Since then I have been out of my mind and not eaten or slept. Can any one advise me on how I get though the next 3 days , and  what the doctor will say , ie will they have a plan .

Hi Moseley, I'm so sorry that you are going through this. My diagnosis was nearly one year ago, Somehow I got through the waiting time, but I was in some other world. I couldn't sit still, and the house was cleaned from top to toe. I was running on nervous energy. I knew enough women who had been diagnosed and survived to know that there would be a defined treatment plan. I rang the Macmillan helpline, and the nurse told me what options they would likely take, and based on what I knew (tumour size at that point). They are excellent and so are worth ringing if you feel that you can do that. I remember feeling better after that.  My treatment plan did go down one of the routes that she suggested. I received my results in the breast clinic, and my surgeon outlined my plan there and then. A few days later, a PICC line was put in, and I started chemo. That might not be your route though. You might not need chemo. But my plan started very quickly, and I was grateful for that. Surgery came afterwards. . Certainly, I got the impression that they knew what they were doing, and they did. If you have had a biopsy they will have a lot of information in front of them, as several tests will have been run, such as if the biopsy is oestrogen and herceptin positive for example. Mine was oestrogen positive. Your treatment plan will be based on that. 
I hope this answers your question a little. X

Thank you for the support .