Cancer has ruined our lives

I cannot tell you how much the dreaded C has ruined our lives. A happy young late 50's couple starting a new life abroad and then a lump appears. My wonderfull and courageous wife then undergo's chemo, lumpectomy, radiotherapy and continuing herceptin and years ahead of Letrozole. 

Our life was good together, 35 years of marriage, children etc. no money worries and this has ruined us altogether. I cannot blame my beautiful wife at all but she has changed in nearly every way possible. We cannot talk like we did, she never seems  happy like she used to, like we were before all this. Our love life, which was important to us and always has been, is no more. The more I try to cheer her up and make her happy she tells me I am always on at her and that there is nothing wrong. She was on Citalopram but she simply wont take them any more, saying there is nothing wrong and she doesn't need them.

Where do we go from here? I am desperate for us to build our lives together again but struggling. We now live back in the UK again as our dream abroad was shattered by this cancer. Sorry If I seem to be down when there are so many other people in a far worse  position.

 

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  • Hi JW,

    Dave & Chriss have written beautifully about the impact cancer has on lives and how to navigate the 'new normal' which is thrust upon you without any option. Depression medication isn't the way to deal with it but trying to talk, perhaps through counselling, does help. Don't live in the past, find a new 'normal' together now & the future will get brighter, believe me.

    Angie (melanoma patient)

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  • Hi JW,

    Dave & Chriss have written beautifully about the impact cancer has on lives and how to navigate the 'new normal' which is thrust upon you without any option. Depression medication isn't the way to deal with it but trying to talk, perhaps through counselling, does help. Don't live in the past, find a new 'normal' together now & the future will get brighter, believe me.

    Angie (melanoma patient)

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