Oh Jules forgive my post on my site to you .....I am so sorry not to have known of your hubbies departure. You know from the support you have given me how well I understand your current situation and my heart goes out to you. My site tells of my joirney through this uncharted place you find yourself in. It is difficult but you will come through.
Just lovely to see your name appear on my thread and suspect its just as hard for you to post but I really appreciate the message. It was a long three years for hubby and I take much comfort in the fact that he is now free from the clutches of his disease which took his happiness away. I am surrounded by the love of my family and friends (and the ongoing support of virtuality buddies) and now, like you, my life must be lived to the best of my ability. Early days still but so many memories to cherish and share with others - a few late nights of 'story-telling' along the way.
Sending hugs and best wishes and hope all is well with you and Julie in your new life. Jules x
Hi Jules,
So glad your first day back was ok. It's good to get back into the swing of things and so good your workmates are supportive. Good they love you like your mates here do. Had to laugh at the koala comment. They are fierce if cornered and could rip a dog to shreds. If one in our tree out back (only likely in severe drought conditions) dog is only allowed out for ablutions under supervision so he doesn't bait or threatened koala. They stay in natural habitat unless needs must. Wetlands next door is natural and lovely to see , I enjoy the lorikeets in the trees but can be noisy blighters. Bird life is really good and enjoyable to watch and listen to. How did your visit with mum go?. Not 100 per cent pleased with my solicitor. Hubby's choice but for the money being paid I would expect 100 p c accuracy., breathe in breathe out....big hugs Kathy xx
Had problems getting access on the site for a few attempts - despite signing in still kept asking for me to sign in. Still here now.
Am sure it is wonderful to be close to the wetlands and having regular birdsong (even if a bit too noisy on occasion). I am lucky enough to have lots of garden birds currently visiting the feeding stations in my garden and gave the blackbirds (re-visiting pair) and the robins an extra treat of chopped raisins and suet as it was such a chilly start. This afternoon had 8 goldfinches arguing over the niger seed and bluetits on the suet block. Do not seem to fazed by the visiting felines either.
Visit to Mum as a little later today as I had GP appointment first ( she is having me attend once a month for post bereavement check ups - so far so good apparently!!). Spent an hour with Mum before being told I could go as she wanted to go into early lunch but it was good to have a smile or two and to hear that she was happy with new social worker (he must have used some charm!!). Hope by the end of this week to have completed all the financial forms to send to Social Services t o help with assessment and then it will be the wait and see game ( a repeat of 2013 procedure but praying for a better outcome this time round).
Do hope your solicitor bucks his ideas up as you really do not need the stress related to this side of your affairs and accuracy is so essential in legal affairs. Am hoping that the choice we have made with regards to the company that I am appointing (representative calling this evening to formally begin the process) will help take this side of things off my hands and have a stack of papers ready for him to collect. Thankfully his last comment to me was that as the Will was so simple and I am only beneficiary they do not expect it to be complicated but its a 'due process' so will not be crossing any bridges just yet ha ha.
You are so right that getting back to usual routines of life helps though am finding that if things go a little haywire I do not cope as well as I used to (maybe in time eh!). Take care my Scottish Aussie virtual friend. Sending peaceful thoughts and hugs. Jules x
Well done Jules - for your good news. Things are slowly getting better and I am not surprised your garden is full of birds - they all love you!! I am glad your mum is settling in well and enjoying what the place has to offer.
My mum keeps being put into hospital and we have told the home to only do this in dire emergency. She finds it all so confusing and disruptive
My Mum has only had to be taken to the hospital twice in the two years she has been in residential care thankfully. However she is not in a nursing home so it is always on the advice of their attending GP when this happens. It is always so confusing and upsetting when their routines are changed. Unfortunately with Mum's bi polar mental disorder all she wishes for most of the time is for the end to come sooner rather than later (there is no dementia and she reaches the ripe old age of 89 in May). We as the family can only do our best to keep her safe.
I cannot believe that a month has passed since hubby was set free from his illness. Still feel a little like I am on autopilot as we cope day to day but having handed over the 'probate' to the professionals yesterday my mind is a little freer from the legalities and the grieiving process continues at its own pace.
Have babysitting the grandchildren to look forward to on Friday (its my turn to have a 'sleepover') as daughter and son in law are at a wedding reception (my son is best man) for good friends and it will be lovely to have something to celebrate.
Hi Jules, while at shops today saw suet and thought of you and your birds...good to hear you have chosen legal beagle to do the necessary. I have decided to have a few veg out days and chill. Think I have been pushing myself too hard. 5 days of over 33 forecast coming up which means early dog walks. Have suspected pinched nerve in c7 so have made appt for remedial massage and chiro for Friday. If it gets worse neurologist wants me to call him and have MRI. Have every confidence R & R and massage will fix it.. You will have a ball babysitting on Friday, am sure the littlies will have you beaming. Ok hon may have an early night. Big hugs. Kathy xx
Hoping that you have managed to get a bit more understanding of the new layouts and so on at work and also hoping that the visit went ok with your Mum.
I am afraid that this is a short message to tell you that I am going to be conspicuos by my abscence for a while. Unfortunately the long running demon war has elevated to a whole new level in the last few days and right now I am finding it extremely difficult to manage everyday challenges like work and home life. I wish it was possible for you wrap up and post to me some of the enormous strength you have shown for such a long time now but it isn't and I am struggling to find any more of my own.
I will be in touch as and when there is any improvement but in the meantime please take care of yourself and sending best wishes to you and your amazing family.
So sad to read your latest post on my thread. Don't you dare give up on fighting those demons (really wish PM still available) and take all the time you need to talk to the professionals and try to find a way through the 'fog' you are being held in just now. Thank you for being a great forum buddy (I will not have you say otherwise) and remember your virtual friends when the fog clears. Sending peaceful thoughts (hope they reach out to you) and understanding hugs. Jules x
Hope you will find the time to to relax (though I know how much keeping busy helps with our 'over-thinking things!!) and are putting your feet up so you will be refreshed int time for the arrival of your family and the happiness the wedding celebrations with bring (I also know there will be difficult emotions/memories so give yourself some TLC in the meantime. Am thinking of you and thank you for your continued support and listening to my inane ramblings. Look after yourself- big hugs. Jules x
