Oh Jules forgive my post on my site to you .....I am so sorry not to have known of your hubbies departure. You know from the support you have given me how well I understand your current situation and my heart goes out to you. My site tells of my joirney through this uncharted place you find yourself in. It is difficult but you will come through.
Just lovely to see your name appear on my thread and suspect its just as hard for you to post but I really appreciate the message. It was a long three years for hubby and I take much comfort in the fact that he is now free from the clutches of his disease which took his happiness away. I am surrounded by the love of my family and friends (and the ongoing support of virtuality buddies) and now, like you, my life must be lived to the best of my ability. Early days still but so many memories to cherish and share with others - a few late nights of 'story-telling' along the way.
Sending hugs and best wishes and hope all is well with you and Julie in your new life. Jules x
Just a quick message to wish you well on first day back. Im still having issues with ease of use of this site so take advantage when I get in. You seem to be doing well and from my own experience you are doing all the right things. Its good to keep yourself busy: especially in the evenings. Do remember to collect the 2000 pounds government hand out to all widows. You have to ask for it, they scandoously dont just give it.
Good afternoon Jules, by the time you log in, you'll have done your first day back at work - hope it went well and you're not too exhausted. No doubt your colleagues will be looking after you over the coming days/weeks. Take care and remember to pace yourself! Hugs, Jo xx
I just want to mirror what Jo has said and sharing her belief that your colleagues have no doubt been and will continue to look after you after your return to work.
My return has been somewhat hectic which I expected but I will have to have a word with the guys who were taking care of things in my abscence as problems were caused that didn't need to be there. Hey Ho!
Had a long walk yesterday morning visiting my usual Farmer's Market (have a new cheese to try - goats cheese with garlic and nettles!!) and did a bit of shopping before having a French Manicure as a little treat!(my excuse is that this will protect my nails upon return to work ha ha).
First day back was fine; everyone as expected very supportive (protective) and not too busy so able to 'find my feet' with new promotions etc. My friend who does not work Mondays met me afterwards and we went to try a new teashop (named The Wonky Teapot). It was their first day and though a bit at sixes and sevens still enjoyed our natter over tea and toasted teacake. Everything felt strangely surreal but am sure once back into usual routine it will be like it was before and its another hurdle breached so to speak.
Will visit Mum tomorrow morning after my GP appointment and then seeing 'Mr Probate' in the early evening when hopefully he will take all the notes/paperwork he requires to take things forward (not exactly a restful day off but handy to be able to fit things in when not working).
Take care and all the very best to you and MRs B. Kind thoughts Jules x
Thanks Kathy, all went okay and its good to be back into some sort of weekly routine again and dealing with 'normal' daily stuff. Pretty chilly today but dry and having enjoyed snack with my friend after work am now cocooned in front of the fire with yet another cuppa and trying to decide on what to have for dinner (treated myself to some 'osterich' (apologies for any veggies out there) and fish when I went shopping over the weekend so spoilt for choice.
Hope all is well with you and the family and its not too hot to be enjoying the outside space (my daughter very envious that you have koalas close by (they got engaged whilst on holiday in Australia (staying with friends) and she did the usual tourist thing of holding one and has been smitten ever since!
Take care and thanks again for your support. Big hugs Jules
Thanks George, Everyone on the forum has been great and I am finding it very humbling to have so many lovely people, who are going through so much themselves, looking out for me too.
Hope the docs have been able to make you a little more comfortable and give Ria a pat from me. Take care. Hugs Jules x
Thanks for thinking of me Max. Am sure you have a lot going on in your head at present but hope you are giving yourself some special treatment and are surrounded by TLC. As always in my thoughts and sending hugs. Jules x
Thanks Ian, it was quite a slow and easy return (staff wanting to catch up and those I had not already seenduring previous 'drop ins' having a chat) as Monday reasonably quiet. Another hurdle crossed and so far am managing quite well (bet then no one has upset me yet ha ha).
As to the hands up re Widow Benefit our Probate rep.(now fully appointed and visiting again tomorrow to collect paperwork) also mentioned it and it is already through along with the bereavement benefit which I get weekly for a year. Am using it to get some of the important things done that have been on hold for a few years so come the Summer should be more secure in our back garden!
Hope you and Julie enjoyed your wedding day (not doubt feels like a bit of distant memory now) and you are enjoying your new life together - are the dog and cat talking yet?
Thanks Ian, it was quite a slow and easy return (staff wanting to catch up and those I had not already seenduring previous 'drop ins' having a chat) as Monday reasonably quiet. Another hurdle crossed and so far am managing quite well (bet then no one has upset me yet ha ha).
As to the hands up re Widow Benefit our Probate rep.(now fully appointed and visiting again tomorrow to collect paperwork) also mentioned it and it is already through along with the bereavement benefit which I get weekly for a year. Am using it to get some of the important things done that have been on hold for a few years so come the Summer should be more secure in our back garden!
Hope you and Julie enjoyed your wedding day (not doubt feels like a bit of distant memory now) and you are enjoying your new life together - are the dog and cat talking yet?
