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Do I pretend to feel 'ok' when I don't?

Midgemo
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Hi everyone, I had breast conserving surgery in early December and radiotherapy two weeks ago for Invasive Ductal Carcinoma and I'm on my second month of Anastrozole. Overall I think I'm doing quite well and I'm trying my best to keep active and 'move on' but there are times when I feel very tired and sad and a bit sorry for myself too. I've noticed when I get asked how I'm feeling by some people that they don't really want to hear the truth at all. Today when I said I felt very tired and low I got told in no uncertain terms that I had to be positive, that my results were good, and that my treatment was over now. The person who said this had BC many years ago herself. I felt hurt and shocked by this response but I was able to say that it was still fairly early days for me yet. However I've begun to wonder if I'm not 'being positive ' enough. I think I'm generally quite positive but sometimes I just feel sad about having had cancer and I'm afraid of recurrence.  Perhaps I should just say 'I'm fine'  on the down days. Have any of you had similar experiences to this?

M

 

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    I finished treatment for Brest cancer last summer I also have all your feelings  I often don't feel very positive so I take my self off for a walk.  But every ach and pain I  wonder what it is.  I only have Zoledronic acid twice a year for my bones my oncologist Said it was early days and try to pace my self no one really understands when treatment s over    (and fingers crossed and you are moving  )on it's   still always with you I have two wonderful lady's who I message and I met in the chemo suite they know how it is.  Take one day at a time x

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    Midgemo 

    I finished treatment in nov 22 

    I was tired up until January end I went on holiday last week of January to the canaries , for some reason I found I needed a full stop for me it was the best thing I could have done I now feel so refreshed maybe a little break could help as I feel brand new now .

    I hope you feel better soon sending you a big hug 

    love Lara ️

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    Hello Lara Thank you for sharing your experience. Um glad to hear youre doing well. I am planning a lholiday later this year so hopefully it will help me 'move on' a little more.

     Stay strong 

    Mx

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