Hi Debbie,

I don't think anybody just gets over cancer in a year.  Because it affects you so much mentally as well as physically.  It's scary right?  And it's not like getting over a general illness.  And something others who haven't experienced this will understand.  The fear factor will still be there and that can be draining.  I've been told it's quite normal for the emotional side to catch up with you after treatments.  And it's an individual thing when that hits or how long it takes to feel safe.  

And if your throat is still sore and swollen, that's a constant reminder of what you've been through.

Why not tell your daughter that you want to see your grandchildren but maybe for shorter periods of time until you feel you have stamina again?  And it could be something you can try to work towards, at your own pace.  Good luck!

Hi Debbie,

I don't think anybody just gets over cancer in a year.  Because it affects you so much mentally as well as physically.  It's scary right?  And it's not like getting over a general illness.  And something others who haven't experienced this will understand.  The fear factor will still be there and that can be draining.  I've been told it's quite normal for the emotional side to catch up with you after treatments.  And it's an individual thing when that hits or how long it takes to feel safe.  

And if your throat is still sore and swollen, that's a constant reminder of what you've been through.

Why not tell your daughter that you want to see your grandchildren but maybe for shorter periods of time until you feel you have stamina again?  And it could be something you can try to work towards, at your own pace.  Good luck!

Hi 

Thankyou so much for replying to my post. It's so true about the understanding it definitely seems to have dwindled the general concensus feels like I should be over it now. It will be a year in October when my radiotherapy finished and I agree it's only now it's hitting me more emotionally, I feel I have changed which has surprised me. I feel a conversation is needed with my daughter and the rest of my family. The way you describe it as draining is so apt, I will work on my stamina Thankyou once again for taking the time to reply to me 

kindest regards Debbie 

Thank you everyone for this interesting post.            My family  think now chemotherapy finished I am better now got radiotherapy  for 10 days still worn out taking one day at a time stay strong everyone x

Hi lobelia

im sorry to hear what your going through, it's such a tough time and you still have more to come. Unfortunately your family can be brilliant for support but they will never understand unless they've been through it themselves, it is a lonely journey but you do get through it even through the toughest times you just have to grit your teeth and dig deep. I wish you all the luck and hope for the best outcome 

kind regards Debbie