Don't no what else to do/try, someone please help!!

Hi, 

I don't really no what to say. This is the second time I've been through surgery to have melanomas removed and busy under going radiotherapy. 

I've tried talking to friends and some family but I don't think they understand how I'm feeling as I can't express on how I feel. 

Decided to totally binge the other night and got really drunk but I no that it's not the answer to how I'm feeling, I just wanted to forget about everything. 

Was wondering if there were anyone out there who have any coping strategies with feeling massively alone and depressed but struggle to make there feeling heard, or find it hard to open up at all? 

Thanks 

 

  • Hi tiger cub, 

    Thanks for getting back to me again. Some days I wish she could but better for her not to I guess. Sometimes you can just babble away for hours with no judgement looks.

    I'm starting to struggle a little with driving a little bit, my leg is starting flare you with the treatment and it's rubbing something rotten. 

    Clinc went OK, didn't given me much help with the pain but I've only got a week left. Hopefully get my head sorted with that.

    Hope everything is going well with you and your bear is listening well 

    :) 

  • Hey Annie. 

    Going to just do a little a bit at time and see how it goes. 

    Didn't get any help today but going to ask when I go tomorrow. 

    Thanks for all your help and kind words, I means a great deal to me. 

    :) 

  • Hello again, just came along to see how you're doing, things seem a bit better at the moment. So glad you can see your friendly horse, that was going to be my next suggestion. Animals can be very good listeners. 

    Counselling isn't for everyone, but I found it was a good way to start listening to myself. Mine gave great feedback, didn't offer solutions but helped me find the right path for myself.

    I recently had a great session with a reflexologist.(Foot massage.) It was so relaxing, I felt the benefit for some time afterwards. Must go again soon.

    Hope you can tell from replies here that people do care about you. 

    Regards, gamechanger

  • Hi Pop90

    I think maybe docs and friends etc think you had surgery so everything must be ok now which clearly is not case .I don't know if I'll ever have surgery docs tell me I'm complex case thanks that's made me feel lots better not .but I probably won't sleep good tonight got so diy enema tomorrow for preparation for camera up lovely way spend my birthday didn't try chenge appointment just need it done 

     

     

  • Hi if your feeling frightend and stressed ring the Samaritans they are there for everyone .they are great the number is 116123 they can listen they are not just for suicidal people just ring and say hello i need help you may get one you cant relate to so say thak you and ring again they are there 24 hours a day and its a free call .Next tommow find the number of you local hospic they are not there just for termily ill people they can arrange all sorts of counciling and may be able to point you to the right people to help you with your kiddies just ring tell them how things are and you need help i cant imagin how you are feeling .it must be awfull but sympathy is nice but it dosent help in your position hope ive helped in some way someone will maybe pop up on here with better advice but hospices have teams that come out .but you have to ask because how will anyone know best wishs paul

  • Hi game changer

    Nice to here from you again. She has been great today, felt like I got a few things off my chest I would say to anyone.

    I've had one session before but don't think I was very open minded going into it. Going to give it another go and see how I feel about it after that. 

    I have realised people do care, and I'm so happy I pushed myself to do this, was so nervous incase I was going to be judge or people thought I was just being dramatic. 

    :) 

  • Hi tiger cub

    My surgeon has be really good, thankfully. Think I hit on lucky to be fair. He's been on my side with everything and spoke to me like a human and not just a patient. 

    Ooh that's not great on your birthday, but I suppose there is no point in putting it off like you said. I still can't sleep great. My skin is starting to break with the treatment and is itchy like hell. But this doctor for my radiotherapy isn't as nice as my surgeon. (two different hospital unfortunately)

    I hope it isn't to bad for you tomorrow. Hope to speck to you soon, if you want too and you manage to get some rest. 

    :) 

  • Hi Paul. 

    Thanks for the advice, would never have thought about going down that road. I'm learning that I have to ask and stop putting a stupid grin on my face and think everything will be fine. 

    :) 

  • Dont pretend your not hurting as how does yourfamile know look on internet about how to treat people in your position and let them read it the other peace of advice and it so important is drink lots of fluids i tell everyone now vitamin c and there are suplements look for antioxidants read about free radicals and how they effect your body then make your own judgements turmeric is popular suplement read about that thousands say it helps some say it doesnt but ask your dr if its ok to use i think a few suffers will drop bye and give you there oppinions if you post it ask [@Chriss]‍ she will along shortly a lovely lady .hope you can get some help you sound truely worried to say the least and you do have my upmost sympathys  your family are probably at a loss what to do or say best it not somthingspeople have to deal with its not like a cold best wishs to you regards paul ps and dont drink it dehydrates you 

  • Thanks Paul. 

    Sorry for the late reply.

    Thanks for the guidance, I'll look into some things and see what I can find.

    :)