Hey there Pop90, 

Online support groups are a good way to let off steam. You can choose when you post, and sometimes just writing things down helps. It's a way of getting thoughts straight in your head, and the more you start to understand the way you feel, the more you can express things.

It's a sad fact that people don't always understand what someone else is going through, but if they can at least show they care, that's good. I use relaxation CDs and have in the past had counselling over the phone, which was really useful. Talking to some anonymous person I wouldn't bump into in everyday life felt safe.

Think about things you've enjoyed in the past, maybe listening to music, having a little dance, going for a walk. Simple pleasures. 

I hope you find some relief soon. Take care.

Regards, gamechanger

Hi gamechanger 

Thanks for the reply. I've tired to do my normal day to day things as I enjoy horse riding but I'm not very mobile as I've had the surgery in my groin.

Think I'm going to try and write things down in a book and get them off my chest.

I've spoke to one of my nurses today and think they are going to come to my house and see what they can do. I've never spoke to a professional before so hopefully it might help. 

Thanks for your advice 

Hiya.  It must feel very unfair that others are going about their lives without the worries that you are experiencing.  I know lots of people have their own crosses to bear and you are right to say that nobody understands another's problems unless they have been through them.   Glad you are getting some support as it sounds like you can sure welcome that.  Also if you can write things down, with total honesty , then that would be good for you and help others understand a bit more.  Keep talking with us if it helps you at all.  Best wishes.  Annie

Hi Annie, 

I no everyone is trying to help me but they all just keep saying ive got to rest but it is hard when I have a two year old boy to look after. 

I'm going to go and get a book today and see how I get on writing things down. Just everything within my day to see how it goes. I am going to try and stay in contact on here but I do struggle to open up sometimes. Hoping I will manage as I no other people are going through the same struggles as what I am. 

Thanks for your advice and time 

Hi again.  I can imagine that you are run off your feet with two year old!  Is there nobody who can help you.  Is his dad around?  Also do you live close to your family who will help out?  Sorry, I know this sounds obvious but sometimes you just have to ask questions to get a feel for the position.  If there is anyone who you would trust with your precious son then ask them; people like to help if you ask them.   

Let us know how you are getting on with your possible book plans; you could try just doing a  daily blog for starters?  Keep in touch.  Annie

Hi Annie, Yeh his dad is still around but works night shift. We have been fight a bit of late but he does help out when he can. My mam and dad take him alot for me at the minute as my skin is getting very sore with the radiotherapy

I'm still unsure what to write in it, just what I do with my day and how I feel? 

Appreciate your help 

I am probably not the best person to ask about writing but I read a lot.  What comes across best (for me at any rate) is when someone doesn't hide anything but tells everything that is in your heart and mind, warts and all (so to speak).  You can write just for yourself in the first instance; sometimes brutal honesty can feel a bit embarrassing but I imagine it would make you feel better to scrape the bottom of your thoughts and actions and what you are feeling.  Don't know if that makes any sense to you. 

Reading your post below can you not get some help with your leg now as you would probably feel better if you got some decent sleep.  Spoil yourself while you can; it's your life that you are living and you deserve to reduce as many problems as you can.

Going to bed myself now.  Good night and hopefully some sleep for you.  Annie

Hey Annie. 

Going to just do a little a bit at time and see how it goes. 

Didn't get any help today but going to ask when I go tomorrow. 

Thanks for all your help and kind words, I means a great deal to me. 

:) 

Hey Annie. 

Going to just do a little a bit at time and see how it goes. 

Didn't get any help today but going to ask when I go tomorrow. 

Thanks for all your help and kind words, I means a great deal to me. 

:) 

Hello again, just came along to see how you're doing, things seem a bit better at the moment. So glad you can see your friendly horse, that was going to be my next suggestion. Animals can be very good listeners. 

Counselling isn't for everyone, but I found it was a good way to start listening to myself. Mine gave great feedback, didn't offer solutions but helped me find the right path for myself.

I recently had a great session with a reflexologist.(Foot massage.) It was so relaxing, I felt the benefit for some time afterwards. Must go again soon.

Hope you can tell from replies here that people do care about you. 

Regards, gamechanger

Hi game changer

Nice to here from you again. She has been great today, felt like I got a few things off my chest I would say to anyone.

I've had one session before but don't think I was very open minded going into it. Going to give it another go and see how I feel about it after that. 

I have realised people do care, and I'm so happy I pushed myself to do this, was so nervous incase I was going to be judge or people thought I was just being dramatic. 

:)