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About to become homeless

Laurajs
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Hi there , so after my previous post I have decided to end things with my partner . He doesn’t make me happy , hasn’t for years . Makes me question everything I do and criticises me at every opportunity. Now I’m going through cancer and treatment for cancer and how he has been been me during this time has made me re-evaluate everything and i told him I don’t want to be with him anymore . Thing is I live in his home and he wants me out . We have 3 children together and the boys have decided they want to stay with there dad , my daughter isn’t sure . That thought alone is breaking my heart but I can’t do this no more , had 6 weeks of silent treatment from him I cannot and won’t take anymore . He tells me I havnt even got a teaspoon to my name and I have no savings so essentially I’m going to be homeless . What do I do ? I don’t want to go into a hostel but is that my only option?Will I end up on the streets and if so will I have to stop my treatment because I don’t have a car or anything . I feel so stupid I gave up everything for that man , my career, my friends , myself . He knows I have nothing and he loves that fact . Please help with some advice because it’s making me feel so stressed 

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    If you've brought the kids up, he's in for a helluva shock if he thinks everything is his.

    My dad tried to do this to my mum over 30 years ago. She left with nothing, and everything was in his name. Back then too, women were expected to stay at home, whilst the guys were usually the bread winners. Well, the courts take your years of sacrificing a salary and career as to bring up kids into account when deciding who is legally entitled to what. The fact you're married also works in your favour, though that too isn't the dealbreaker it used to be.

    My mum got half of everything and my dad had to pay maintenance for his 3 kids (well, 2 as my sister had just turned 18). Won't be a walk in the park and won't happen overnight, but you shouldn't be totally left high and dry.

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    If you've brought the kids up, he's in for a helluva shock if he thinks everything is his.

    My dad tried to do this to my mum over 30 years ago. She left with nothing, and everything was in his name. Back then too, women were expected to stay at home, whilst the guys were usually the bread winners. Well, the courts take your years of sacrificing a salary and career as to bring up kids into account when deciding who is legally entitled to what. The fact you're married also works in your favour, though that too isn't the dealbreaker it used to be.

    My mum got half of everything and my dad had to pay maintenance for his 3 kids (well, 2 as my sister had just turned 18). Won't be a walk in the park and won't happen overnight, but you shouldn't be totally left high and dry.

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