Firstly, I’m so sorry you’re in this situation however please know it is temporary. No man should treat you this way so I’m glad you know your worth. Get onto your local housing association, explain your situation and I am sure they will help you as a priority. You should get housed with your children to allow your treatment to continue. Also, make contact with universal credit who will assess your financial situation and get a plan in place. You may not have it all right now, but you will be better off. Do not give him the satisfaction of seeing you hurt. Hold your head high and put plans in place. People will help you, maybe reach out to local charities who could support you. You do not have to do this alone xx

Firstly, I’m so sorry you’re in this situation however please know it is temporary. No man should treat you this way so I’m glad you know your worth. Get onto your local housing association, explain your situation and I am sure they will help you as a priority. You should get housed with your children to allow your treatment to continue. Also, make contact with universal credit who will assess your financial situation and get a plan in place. You may not have it all right now, but you will be better off. Do not give him the satisfaction of seeing you hurt. Hold your head high and put plans in place. People will help you, maybe reach out to local charities who could support you. You do not have to do this alone xx

Thank you so much for your reply . I have  spent weeks if not months being upset about it all and now I just feel numb to it tbh and today I woke up and decided I didn’t want this life no more it’s making me feel suicidal . I am receiving help from my local mental health team . Everybody says to me to be strong but sometimes it’s so hard . I told him today it’s over and he agreed he isn’t bothered in the slightest . I don’t want to lose my kids but he knows I can’t offer them anything and won’t be able to give them lifts anywhere etc because I don’t have a car . I’m going to contact my council this week and I have been on a website called entitled to which regarding finances has put my mind at rest . He has said to me a few weeks ago whichever way I go whether I leave or die he is going to replace me straight away . Everything just seems so hard and undoable at the moment . How can somebody you’ve been with for 15 years treat somebody they r meant to love like this? I’m not upset it has ended ok relived more than anything it’s just not that easy to walk away when you have nothing 

You have so much to offer your kids, you’ve made the most brave decision to take this step. No person on this earth should make you feel suicidal, let alone someone who claims to love you. This is a reflection on him and not you. Stay strong and get your ducks in a row. Everyone is here for you keep your head high. He certainly won’t be able to work, run a house, provide childcare and replace you immediately. I promise it’s hard now but you will look back at this as the best decision of yours and your children’s lives. Keep us updated how you get on I hope you’re ok xx

Thank you , I will make the calls tomorrow and try and make an appointment with my council . I will keep you updated on what they say . I’m not ok but now I’ve told him it’s over I’m not going to let him see me shed one more tear in front of him . He actually put me in hospital last year for 7 weeks he made me feel that suicidal that I tried to end it but I’m still here and this time I won’t let him do that to me xx

Hi Myboomie , I hope you are well? Just wanted you to know I’ve posted an update on everything that’s going on xx

Laura I’m actually very proud of you, well done for finding your inner strength to stand up and say no more. It made me quite emotional reading your update, what lovely supportive parents you have. I’m here for a chat anytime, I went through something similar a few years ago although he left in the end when he moved in with his side peice so I got the house etc so very different circumstances. These next few weeks are going to be tough, but you will be so much happier as will your children. I’ve sent you a request so we can private message. You sound like a lovely person, I’m so sorry he’s ground you down all these years but I’m grateful you know your worth. The only way is up. Big hugs xxx

Morning Myboomie, 

I’m sorry you went through a bad time with your ex I’m glad you got out of that situation. 

I’ve accepted your friend request , thank you for being so kind xx