Oh wow, what a selfish waste of space you have for a partner. How on earth is your cancer getting in his way??? Why isn't he already supporting you? What kind of support does his parents think he needs?? 

Dont be confused love, if he has basic good health then I'm flabbergasted as to why he needs support while your undergoing bc treatments......grrrrrr!!!!

xxx

Hi Autumn being male i 100%agree with Paulus, if that's his attitude dump him he's not going to change or help you in any way.

You need help and support not being moaned at when your I'll. Good luck with your treatment. Hope you can sort something out soon with your partner and messing his life up. Hah

It's unbelievable his attitude..

Billy 

Thank you everyone who has replied to my post. It's encouraging to know that there are kind people out there. I started doubting whether I caused my own cancer and thereby inconveniencing my partner and his family. I actually wanted to stop treatment I started feeling so guilty for having cancer. They expect me to support him financially and emotionally as he isn't working, I've had to see us through. He's healthy. Once again thank you so much for your encouraging posts. I really appreciate it. Xx

He isn't working? So your supporting him financially and emotionally? All the while having bc treatments.....oh boy....he really isn't a keeper love, he's more of a liability! 

Can I ask what he brings to the party? The relationship seems one sided.....

I finished active bc treatment in Dec, how you doing? Xx

I think I hold onto him because in my world he's the only one I've got as I don't have any family. It's very one sided yes but its my fault cos i keep giving. What treatment did you have? My treatment is halfway and I'm already tired . Thank you for asking. How are you now that treatment is finished? Xx

Your wellcome he sounds a looser to me dont you feel guilty about anything just concentrate on your health .if i had son like that i would sorting him out not supporting him you take care now come back for a chat your always wellcome and one day may come on sharing your experiances with someone who just needs a bit of support .p

I know it's difficult but you need to start valuing yourself, your worth so much more than he's offering, which basically is zero. When your treatment is through and you back on an even keel you feel more empowered, bc will be your wake up call....it was certainly mine.

I had surgery followed by chemo, then rads and herceptin and am now on meds for the foreseeable. I know how tiring treatments are, I just feel sad your partner isn't there for you...

Im here if you need to chat love xxx

Thanks Marlyn. Just reading your post gives me hope. I would have liked to have had support through my traumatic event but I surrounded myself with the wrong people. I had surgery, now radiotherapy. Started my meds. I'm really really scared.

Thank you for being there xx

What meds you on? I'm on hormone inhibitors and bisphosphonates....

dont be scared.....are there any groups you can join? Do you have a Maggies? Or similar? It really helps to chat to people in the same situation, makes your realise your not alone and your not going mad....xx