The good and the bad

Hi peeps

I have recently been diagnosed with breast cancer. Taking the excellent advice on this website I pretty much started by taking it one day at a time. This does indeed help. 

I thought to share the good and the bad and would love to hear anyone else's should they wish to share.

Today I had both a good and a bad moment. I received 2 letters in the post.

The first was from the hosp confirming my op date (my bad moment) cos my stomach dropped and I had that now familiar feeling of anxiousness take hold for a moment but shook it off cos I know it is needed. 

The good - my 2nd letter - as if... a tax rebate - boom  . Not half put a much needed smile on my face . Reckon a my treat family meal is in order.

Eeee it's the little things ain't it. 

Take care peeps 

Sandra x ️X

 

  • Thank you all so much. Still hasn't sank in really. Seems surreal. The oncologist was very positive about everything and said the risk of harm due to radiotherapy is very small. Theyve stopped my herceptin though but they were always going to due to my bad skin reaction. Really glad Jamie got to come today to. Was really emotional after the year we've had. They removed my pic due to having personal info on so I've cropped it and reposted:-)

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  • O M G how wonderfull ... can we all call her /him our little rainbow ... after the storm, there it is to make us all smile again .. big big congrats ... you so deserve it ...

    Big hug to you and little rainbow mirical ... think your news has made us all smile ...

    Chrissie

  • Dizzle major congrats to you. You have come a mighty long way and now cancer free and bubba healthy too...so made up for you xxx

  • Even better 2nd viewing ️ So so happy for u dizzel. X

  • Hi,

    Well, I try to obtain more information but I cannot go with him to the doctor's appointments. My boyfriend says his doctor doesn't reveal much information, but I don't know if it's the doctor don't talk, or him that doesn't want more information. In fact, I cannot understand for instance if he has like 1 month or 2 years ahead, which are quite different situations... I don't know which situation I should prepare for.
    And I cannot force him to obtain this information because he might prefer not to live according to a deadline...
    He is taking chemo pills, so he is more time at home, but he's allways so tired and spends so much time in bed. It was really life changing, because last month we went on a trip to Belgium (he was that ok), and from a moment to the other he got so deteriorated, hence my confusion...

    Anyway, valentine's day and I cannot be with him. I'm getting better into not to think about this everytime, but it seems he is getting more depressed each day, he says it's the time he's handling worst the disease since ever (he is now crying a lot of times)... But I really don't know what to do to cheer him up. 

    Tomorrow I shall go to his town and spend the weekend as always, saturday is also my sister's birthday. 

    Thank you for caring.

    Take care***
     

  • Congratulations! It's important to hear some good news, to know that are good things in the world :)
    Best of luck*

    take care**

  • Morning peeps 

    bad none yay

    good :- happy valentines to all you wonderful people. Remember you don’t need someone else to treat you.... be good to yourself and if you want a treat.... get yourself one ;-) strawberries and chocolate dip for me ( and there may b some Prosecco ;-) to have later after school run etc done :-)

    have as good a day as u can peeps x ️X

     

  • Bless you u r between a rock and a hard place. Sometimes loved ones push away or choose not to talk about it as it is so painful for them to do so. 

    I guess you can only do what you are doing... letting him know you are going no where. You are there for him and take each day as it comes . 

    We all have felt lost and well... heartbroken when we get diagnosed and through treatment.... how he is feeling it normal and understandable. Let him lead on what he wants and needs.

    big hugs lass. ️

  • Oh how wonderful :love: congratulations xxx your photo made me cry, such a beautiful little miracle and the greatest news ever possible. I’m over the moon for you......and feeling very broody despite being nearly 65 ha ha. Thank you for sharing your little treasure, I’m sure there are lots and lots of fairy godmothers here just waiting to send virtual cuddles and love xxx 

    xxx

  • Hi Sandra 

    aww thank you, they didn’t give me any other cream, just said keep up with the aveeno and keep an eye out for skin breaking but it’s holding up ok so far :)

    good.....I rang the bell last night ......was surprised to see all my family there when I came out of last zapping session...it was a lovely lovely moment and tears all round :love: I will try and post the photo :)

    bad...none yay yay yay

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