The good and the bad

Hi peeps

I have recently been diagnosed with breast cancer. Taking the excellent advice on this website I pretty much started by taking it one day at a time. This does indeed help. 

I thought to share the good and the bad and would love to hear anyone else's should they wish to share.

Today I had both a good and a bad moment. I received 2 letters in the post.

The first was from the hosp confirming my op date (my bad moment) cos my stomach dropped and I had that now familiar feeling of anxiousness take hold for a moment but shook it off cos I know it is needed. 

The good - my 2nd letter - as if... a tax rebate - boom  . Not half put a much needed smile on my face . Reckon a my treat family meal is in order.

Eeee it's the little things ain't it. 

Take care peeps 

Sandra x ️X

 

  • OMG Dizzle!!!!!

    What a twist to your year. I'm so pleased for you hun. Speak to your docs and get everything checked out for your peace if mind. Keep us updated when you can hun.....looks like more hospital this year for you but you get a good lump this time (winks eye) x

  • Thanks for your replies ladies. Great advice as always. I did another test and again it was positive. I had 3 miscarriages prior to the pregnancy so a bit apprehensive but was due to being at the hands of a vile bully so completely different situation this time round. Had to tell Jamie in the end. He is really happy and if all this goes well, it's nothing short of a miracle in my opinion and was meant to be :-) a light at the end of a long dark tunnel xx

  • Morning ladies. Wow Dizzle great news!! Like the others said - get yourself checked out first. Absolutely amazing news!!! I was pregnant 20 odd years ago but got told I may not have children and even had fertility treatment but when it's meant to be - that little miracle will fight all odds and be gifted to you. Pls keep us posted. How exciting!!!!

    It's been busy - looking for a job still and have family wedding so tired all the time. Dunno where that silly rich toy boy is hiding......

  • Great news Dizzle - so happy for you both xx

  • Hi Dizzle, nice to meet you

    I'm glad you are a bit calmer now and that you are processing that as a good thing :) So good that your partner is also happy! Good luck with everything.

    Meanwhile, I opened up with several friends this weekend and I could vent with some, and now other friends want to go for a coffee with me. I also saw some of them at my birthday party which was a nice moment of happyness, in all this messy sadness. 

    my boyfriend however is still sad. He also had friends coming over to see him on Saturday, but he is so week and so hopeless. You see, before he could make trips and walks, he was a very active person, he loved going to concerts and festivals, he loved eating pizza and junk food, and now he spends a lot of time sleeping, and has to eat very healthily because he is lactose and gluten intolerant...  it seems that nothing can cheer him up, and I kinda get it, even if I'm with friends at the end of the day our problems never go away. 
    I don't know if there's anything I can do to cheer someone that received a terminal diagnosis and almost doesn't leave the house. He's 43 and because he's so young that may be even harder...

     

    This may sound terrible to say, but is hard to watch him. I can only spend time with him on weekends because we live in different cities. I used to use the weekends to recuperate from the work week, but now I may use the work week to be revitalized from the weekends that I visit my boyfriend... He's taking chemo pills now, I don't know if they will make him feel better or less pain... i don't know what to expect.

    But well, I know, I know, I'll keep being strong as I can, and with the best spirit despite the circunstances.

    Take care everybody*

  • Hi ladies....am in shock so bare with me. Went to my GP first thing who called the hospital to get me in for an emergency dating scan because of all the treatments I've had  and obviously due to chemo not had a period since June so didn't know how far I was. Went to the early pregnancy unit and she asked me how far I thought i was to which I replied probably about 4-5 weeks. She made a face and said I think you're a bit further than that. Turns out I'm 13 weeks!! I dont understand. No bump and my Jean's feel loser. She said everything looks good and showed me the screen. Obviously I burst into tears. The little thing was having a nice stretch and touching its face. I just burst into tears. Very emotional. Gutted Jamie was at work. He is over the moon though. Who the hell gets pregnant within a month of finishing chemo lol. This kid must be made of strong stuff....just like mummy xx

  • So pleased for you Dizzle. Obviously miracles do happen.

    Sundial

  • Hi lonelygirl

    so sorry your life has taken this turn with your boyfriend. I guess in the scheme of things you are doing as well as can be expected. 

    Sounds as though you are not being told everything so may be filling in the gaps yourself. If it was you with the cancer we would be saying not to do this as our minds go to dark places. Sounds as though the same may true for you as the support to your boyfriend. 

    If it were me in your position I would want to know what exactly the diagnosis is , full treatment plan and  prognosis. Then you won’t feel so much adrift, helpless and hopefully in not such a dark place.

    be there, brave and kind for your boyfriend.... you are his strength and purpose to fight this awful disease. 

    Warm hugs being sent your way. 

  • Well how beautiful is this news dizzel. So so proud of you. Everything both physical and emotional and your little one thrives. How truly wonderful. Congratulations lass ️