Stay Strong

I have a busy day and come home to my lovely neighbour mowing my back lawn.  I chastise him and say  I would have got round to it, he knew I was struggling and came in whilst I was out.  These kindnesses make my day.  I think hubby is not looking well and voice my concerns.   Nope he says he's fine but a little niggle tells me otherwise.   I get up this morning and he admits he's not good..  appointment at Doctors and he has another infection.  I am being picked up by a friend to go to Wynyard Hall and gardens, the day is glorious and she has the soft top down,we arrive and I look like Bridget Jones after her ride in an open top car!  We have home made cake and coffee and meander the beautiful gardens looking at the pumpkins, sweetcorn and variety of flowers.  I suddenly spot a flower that hubby and I keep seeing  on our drives and it's driving him insane not knowing its name.  A lady hears us talking, takes a photo, Googles it and walks back to tell me, it's  called the common tansy. People are so thoughtful and kind!  Back home hubby laughs at the state of my hair, saying I look like I have been pulled through a hedge backwards,  charming!!  I tell him the plants name, lovely he says and promptly falls asleep on his sheepskin in the sunny conservatory.   Hopefully the antibiotics will kick in soon, I want my normal hubby back.

  • Dear Billy and Sue, Sue i'll message you privately soon, Billy what good news with Bren managing to get around better, so much easier for you.  I feel so much better today and will be back swimming tomorrow to get rid of the muscle tiredness, Norman has been very good and keeps asking how I feel, he said I looked so grey first time around but look better this time.  Today I have been to see Ina, we have known each other for forty years but never been friends but after Pauline's funeral she asked me for coffee and today was the invite.  We chatted for three whole hours as we have so much in common it was so weird how we fekt exactly the same about the same people and her husband Harry has bad health as well so we chatted about how our lives have not turned out as we wished and that we've had to adapt to our husband's problems having worked hard all our lives.  I'll tell you more soon but a lot came up about past relationships.  Tea is done and a drink poured so I'm done for the day.  Take care, love Carol x 

  • Hi everyone, Margaret didn't come as her jab has left her poorly.  I cleaned the conservatory out as roof being done tomorrow.  I've been to the gym and had a swim, very proud of myself as did 1500 metres.  Hubby has had treatment today but its getting harder to find veins and he now gets worried as certain staff just can't get the needle in so today has not been good.  I came home from swimm and he was frozen but couldn't be bothered to put the heating on so he sat with gloves on, that didn't work either.  My door has arrived but apparently I have to stain it, I may look at getting someone in to do it as it's a big job and it needs to look right.  So a busy day tomorrow and I'll go and look at some new blinds whilst hubby chills out.  Take care, Carol x 

  • Sorry I've been missing but have been very busy with the house now that workers can come and do the work that I needed doing.  We've also been a little trepidatious about his scan but the news today was the best, no signs of liver cancer and carry on with the treatment, obviously the lung cancer is still there but apart from a cough he is OK, although today he seems a little lost as if the good news has thrown him.  We have just had the worst weather ever, the patio was re grouted this morning so I went to look at blinds, had to sit in the car as only one allowed in the shop and down came the biggest snow hail stones that bounced off my bonnet at a rate of knots, then lightening and then thunder my patio is now flooded!  So now may be a good time to finish this thread and let you all get on with your lives.  My best wishes to you all and Billy and Sue I can send you my e mail address if you wish to keep in touch.  Love Carol x 

  • Dear carol I'm afraid I'm terrable with emails,I was ages getting on forum and kept getting things wrong,it would be lovely to keep in touch though I am on Facebook or messages , again mistakes now and again.

    But if as I said we can keep it touch it would be lovely..

    Or could you Pop on forum now and again,we All love your  blogs.

    Hope to hear from you soon good luck with your future plans.

    Love Billy xxxx

  • Dear Billy, if people wish me to just update once a week I'm very happy to do that, it's just difficult sometimes to post daily.  I've made good virtual friends on this forum, let's see what others say.  Carol xx

  • Dear carol.

    I for one would be happy with weekly reports, like you say see what others think .  Take care keep safe, sorry forgot about Norman's results really good news,

    Love Billy xxxx ️

  • No!!!!!!

    I know I lurk in the background mostly, only popping in to say hello occasionally but I LOVE your blog, Carol and would feel very sad if you weren't here, giving us a glimpse of your life, and letting us know how Norman is faring.. I know it is hard to post every day, my own posts are becoming fewer and farther between as life gets in the way and time seems to get shorter and I really don't expect daily posts from you but please don't disappear into the ether.  I bet there are loads of people who read your posts without joining in and we would all miss you, very much. 

    I would be happy to hear from you weekly, or every couple of weeks, that's probably as often as I log in these days, 

    Christine xxx

  • Hi Christine, it seems unusual to not post but I do check what is happening.  Billy and Chriss want me to stay and Aus Sue always replies.  Perhaps I'll just save it all up and post once a week, it's been so hard to stay positive and remember that others need you!  Norman has a chest infection and has been argumentative and frustrated which gets me down as well.  Keep checking and I'll pop on occasionally.  Love Carol x 

  • Darling carol  .

    Thanks for stopping on would miss you and your information.

    Sorry about Norman's infection and his grumpyness, hope they both soon pass .

    I fitted a longer ramp for brenda, it's really gritty and she can just about run up it,(with the walker of course) trouble is her steering leaves a lot to be desired.                Hope you are keeping well.

    Take care 

    Love Billy xxxx

  • Hi Carol

    Just catching up with your antics. 

    I can understand why you are thinking of leaving or posting less. I think there comes a point in everyone's cancer journey when life changes and what was going on now becomes normal. Although your escapades never seemed normal and always a source of entertainment.

    I still consider myself one of the lucky ones and although I will probably have side effects from the treatment for a long time if not forever it is manageable.

    We have been busy with Zoom events and meetings. My Mum was 90 in April but as we are in a bubble with her could take her out to see some friends in their garden and a meal at our house. I think she enjoyed it  we plan to take her & her friends for a meal when lockdown is lifted.

    We have been going out walking most days during lockdown and I am probably fitter now than I  have been for years. Luckily we live in a semi rural area and are out in the country within a few minutes walk.  Although it's all uphill being in the pennines. 

    Hope you do continue to pop in and keep us updated. If not all the best to you and Norman.

    River