Hello Jen, 

Sorry to hear that you lost your Mum to this awful disease.  For me it was my Dad a little over a year ago.  Just wanted to say I can totally relate to your post.  For me I did not have night 'nightmares' about my Dad, but more images and scenes circling endlessly round my head - making thinking straight during the day or concentrating on work or anything else pretty difficult.  The only way I could get them out was by writing them down (this site was great) and speaking about my Dad to anyone who would listen (I also went to the GP and got a course of antidepressants as I felt pretty low for a while).  I think losing someone to cancer is very traumatic and my theory is that until you can get past the trauma you experienced (and for me lots and lots of anger at this disease taking your parent away), you cant move forward to just missing someone you loved very much.  Anyway, I am no expert, this is just how it felt for me.  I do hope you can get a better nights sleep soon.  Kathryn 

Hello Jen, 

Sorry to hear that you lost your Mum to this awful disease.  For me it was my Dad a little over a year ago.  Just wanted to say I can totally relate to your post.  For me I did not have night 'nightmares' about my Dad, but more images and scenes circling endlessly round my head - making thinking straight during the day or concentrating on work or anything else pretty difficult.  The only way I could get them out was by writing them down (this site was great) and speaking about my Dad to anyone who would listen (I also went to the GP and got a course of antidepressants as I felt pretty low for a while).  I think losing someone to cancer is very traumatic and my theory is that until you can get past the trauma you experienced (and for me lots and lots of anger at this disease taking your parent away), you cant move forward to just missing someone you loved very much.  Anyway, I am no expert, this is just how it felt for me.  I do hope you can get a better nights sleep soon.  Kathryn