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I smoke, I drink, I have cancer. I deserve no support

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Ok, so I have been in and out of this site for 2 years now. But I have never heard anyone talk about smoking, sometimes about drinking, but that all seems okay. Do you know, I have had so much support from people on this site and I hope I have returned it to others in some small way, but never have I had a discussion or seen a discussion about smoking on this site. I fear I will alienate those who have supported me or feel that I have betrayed those I have tried to support I guess. I'm not a tramp (although it wouldn't matter if I was), I'm a successful well paid manager. I have or had cancer for the last 2 years and I smoke and I drink. There it is. I don't need to hear that it's bad, because I know it is. When I was diagnosed, I did give up (both), but when I started to get better, I started again. For me, I just wanted to feel normal again, the old me, not the new cancer victim me. I'm sorry to those that fight this and I continue to press that self destruction button. Obviously I'm not that sorry because I continue to do it. I'm sure this entry will inspire some antagonism or self help support, I just want to tell the truth. I'm sorry. Julie xxx

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    Hi Julie,

    Does it make you feel better to get it out in the open....I hope so. Personally and I can tell by the responses that everyone agrees that you deserve our support whatever the situation...I faced my cancer thinking that as I was overweight, ate too much red meat and drank too much then the cancer was self inflicted. It took my good friend Dizzy to snap me out of it as I was very low at the time...

    I am glad that you have brought up the subject as it clears some thoughts in your head and creates a topic for discussion - there will be for sure others out there thinking exactly what you are thinking.

    We love you dearly Julie and will support you whatever the situation, you deserve our friendship!

    Much Love

    Tony xxxx

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    Oh my goodness everyone. What can I say but that I love you all so much. Yes Tony it does feel good to get it off my chest and to hear all the responses.  It actually felt like a taboo subject on here and from a health/medical point of view, it is poor show that I am continuing to be bad to my body and I will keep trying to be kinder to myself physically and emotionally. I'm so glad the topic was recieved well here and I hope that it encourages us all to be open and know that we will continue to support one another. Thank you all again. Julie xxxxx

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    Hi Julie,

    I used to smoke,so I know what its like & have even said to my husband if the cancer is going to finish me off I may as well go happy & start puffing again, but after much thought I thought to hell with that I don`t need it.

    Its your choice to do what you want why should other people make judgements on others ,of course we know it`s bad for us but hey let them who is without sin cast the first stone(no I`m no bible basher).

    You`ll always be welcome on here no matter what,keep posting.

    Love & Hugs Kathryn xx

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    Hi Julie,

    I used to smoke,so I know what its like & have even said to my husband if the cancer is going to finish me off I may as well go happy & start puffing again, but after much thought I thought to hell with that I don`t need it.

    Its your choice to do what you want why should other people make judgements on others ,of course we know it`s bad for us but hey let them who is without sin cast the first stone(no I`m no bible basher).

    You`ll always be welcome on here no matter what,keep posting.

    Love & Hugs Kathryn xx

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