Dear Shents

and all

i agree easier said than done , cant stop thinking about darlin Rose  ,

LOve hugs to all xx nina xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Hi all

Well that is a shock to the system... hearing about our lovely Rose..... It has made me put things in perspective in my life.... I may be down and depressed because I have no breasts, but I am here and I am now 9 months cancer free.

It seems our Roses is still helping, even when she doesn't post.

Shents, please tell Rose that she is loved and missed by all on here and we wish her the very best of luck

Love always

Caz xxxxxx

Tiggs

welcome to our family.... sorry you have to join us in such sad circumstances.

The  ladies don't mean to ignore you honey, but as you can tell from the  post and the replies.... a dear friend to us all has taken very ill with  her cancer progressing and it has devastated us all..... but Rose would  kick our bums if she found out we had left anybody floundering.... So  please, let us help you.

Have you had your results yet?

I  got diagnosed at 43 and had a double mastectomy.... there are lots of  ladies on here in varying different stages of varying different cancers,  so what ever your question, so matter how silly you think it sounds....  please ask because there is bound to be someone on here that can (and  will) help you.

I had no family history of cancer.... but i suppose there has to be a first (this is one trend I didn't want to start)

I  myself have 2 children, one homegrown and one gifted.... on here I have  learnt not to worry about them losing their mum, but to use them as my  reason to carry on and fight this terrible disease.

One  thing I would advise is that you stop researching your cancer... grades  etc... on the internet.... You will just scare yourself to death....  find one good site and stick to it.. I personally used this site and the  information offered in the other sections of this site... there is also a bit on here that gives you the chance to talk to the moderators... they are all trained cancer nurses (I think) but I do know they do have the information you need.

Also I would suggest you write down any questions you have and take them with you to your next appointment because when you hear that you have cancer and what they are going to do about it.... quite often your mind goes blank and all the questions you had are forgotten.

Please come on here often and let us know how things are progressing

Take care honey,

Love always

Caz xxxxxxxxxx

Hi, I have been visiting this site since sept 2010. I have made a couple of posts to which I received a few replies, one of those being from Rose. She always has good advice or even just a kind word of understanding. She has to be one of the most inspiring women on here! I just felt I needed to share my feelings. Keep up the fight Rose !! All thinking of you and wishing you well.

Sue x

Hello Leonie my name is jane I am 46 with 3 nearly grown up children, I first had breast cancer in  2005 I had a lumpectomy and chemo and radio , then in 2008 i was diagnosed with secondary breast cancer in my spine and then in january it had spread to my lymph nodes and am back on chemo cycle number 6, sadly its not working and I am probably going to start another kind of chemo in july. I am telling you this because i want you to know that you are not alone there are many thousands of women like us battling every day. it's ok to feel peed off I get so angry some days and curse that it is me .....do only what you can on that given day , you need to rest if you don't you will set back your recovery. Be thankful for every day no matter how hard that day is - we are still here and every day I get to spend with my family is a blessing. I find a relaxation cd is helpful I know it sounds like bumkum but just spending 10 mins listening to it helps me and there is one on amazon specifically for healing cancer patients. I find peace in my garden so try and find time just for you even if its only a bath with candles and a book or mag or music. when i retired from work I didn't want my brain to go to mush so I have bought ipod touch and have downloaded games to keep my mind active. and lastly and this was the hardest thing for me it is ok to ask for help it will be readily given by those around you I really struggled with friends coming round to do jobs for me but i can't manage them anymore on my own .... look after yourself and remember a story i told my neice who struggled with self confidence issues - there was china man who walked across china and back again and when he was asked how he did it , he said "one step at a time " take care love jane xx

Hello Jane

I just had to respond to your post. You are truly an inspiration, you really are. With all my heart I hope the change of chemo will work for you, you so deserve to fight this **** cancer. I empathise with you, I have gone through it twice b.c. twice.

Keep your defiance Jane.

Love Miras x

Hi ladies

So sad to hear about Rose. Knew she was going through it with her cancer. How awful for this to be happening to her! She is such a lovely lady n special to us all. Hope to hear from you soon n love you lots special lady. Thinking of you.

Thanks for my well wishes ladies, means a lot to have you there. I'm getting run down looking after charly 3 days a week but I promise I will get on here n write to our new messages. Miras I would love some advice on how to relieve my boob n arm. Will be back on soon.

Love you Rose. Love to all leonie xxxxxx

Hi Leonie

Sorry to have to tell you but  I found out on here yesterday that Rose has lost her struggle against this sh---y disease. She was a great lady.

Jan x

Hello All

I have just come on to catch up and I have just read the news on Rose, I just don't know what to say except she was a real great woman who helped me out many a time, she will definatley be missed by us all. If anyone is in contact with her family please let them know how we will all be thinking of them and my prayers are with them.

I just feel like I cannot say anything now so will speak to you all soon

Take care of yourselves

All my love

Littlesis (Linda)