Hi, i,ve never been on a chat site before, i,ve recently been diagnosed with breast cancer at 42, came out of the blue and i feel in turmoil, don,t know any details yet other than it,s small, in a lobe and i,m having a lumpectomy tomorrow.....i,m terrified, more waiting for results, i know you will all understand, i,ve got a wonderful husband and familiy but feel sooo alone!!  HELP!!

Hello ,

I was diagnosed yesterday with stage 3 breast cancer and to be honest just feel numb and a little angry!! I found the lump in January I went to the doctor who said to come back in 2 weeks to check it was still there as I am 36 so it could be hormonal, it was still there 2 weeks later! The doctor said if I had been over 40 I would have been booked in the next day  however I waited 3 weeks for hospital appointmen,t which they had booked incorrectly (only consultation not scan etc) so waited another week for ultrasound in which doctor came in for approx 2 mins scanned and said it was a Fibroadenoma so nothing to worry about. By now we were at the end of February, I had another appointment booked middle of March to see surgeon to go through options in which I decided I wanted lump removed so was given date 4th May!!!! I had the lump removed last week unfortunately they managed to burn me with diathermy machine so spent the last week in agony to then be told yesterday that I infact have cancer and they have taken 5 months to discover it. Is it normal to feel this angry rather than sad? I have great support from all my family and friends but its great to be able to speak to other people who have already gone or are going through this. Caz

hi everyone special hi to Cazgards

so sorry for your experience so far truely a massive *** up ! It is so normal to be angry even when u havent had to go thru that . You r so welcome here we all have different experiences but the main feelings are all the same just at different times!!we help each other so much . read thru some of the old posts.Firstly you will now be looking forward to your recovery talk to your breast care nurse and consultant and be honest with them that your confidence in the system has been knocked. You musten worry that the delay has had an affect on the outcome of this rubbbish disease iam sure it is very unlikely that those few months clinicially make any difference.So now you,your family and friends will cope with whats ahead ,you can do this and we are all here to help .come and rant chat ask whatever you needxxx

get all the info and help available xxlots of love and hugs nina

ps anyone heard how happilisa got on after surgery

hope everyone ok lots of love xxxxxxxx

hi everyone special hi to Cazgards

so sorry for your experience so far truely a massive *** up ! It is so normal to be angry even when u havent had to go thru that . You r so welcome here we all have different experiences but the main feelings are all the same just at different times!!we help each other so much . read thru some of the old posts.Firstly you will now be looking forward to your recovery talk to your breast care nurse and consultant and be honest with them that your confidence in the system has been knocked. You musten worry that the delay has had an affect on the outcome of this rubbbish disease iam sure it is very unlikely that those few months clinicially make any difference.So now you,your family and friends will cope with whats ahead ,you can do this and we are all here to help .come and rant chat ask whatever you needxxx

get all the info and help available xxlots of love and hugs nina

ps anyone heard how happilisa got on after surgery

hope everyone ok lots of love xxxxxxxx