hi im 36 mother of 3 n diagnosed dec 23. ive had 2 ops n 5 of 6 chemo n finding it very hard at mo. feel so peed off n cant get rid of that feeling. would love to chat. x
Hi, i,ve never been on a chat site before, i,ve recently been diagnosed with breast cancer at 42, came out of the blue and i feel in turmoil, don,t know any details yet other than it,s small, in a lobe and i,m having a lumpectomy tomorrow.....i,m terrified, more waiting for results, i know you will all understand, i,ve got a wonderful husband and familiy but feel sooo alone!! HELP!!
Welcome doesnt seem the right word but u r anyway truly welcome !!It is all very frightning at first but as the others say step by step hope op i sok .thinking of you
This is a great place to chat/rant /sound off anything you like we all know how u feel and believe me you are so not alone !!a few of us also keep in touch on face book if your interested u can add me if u want nina diplock. I was diagnosed breast cancer last july had op/chemo and radio also just had knee op (that was outstanding from bbefore ) You and your family and friends can do this talk to them and us .
please anythingbwe can do come here and chat . It also sometimes helps to read the old posts and you will see that at differnt times we all have more or less same concerns !!
I wanted to come on here here a bundle of joy, telling you all about my lovely new boobs......... but it all went so very wrong!
I came out of hospital and rested, the pain was so bad (but it will be worth it) so I persivered.... then after a week I started to feel feverish and I noticed a lot of redness round the dressing, so I went back to the Jasmin suite and saw my surgeon who told me I had a mild infection, they took a swab, gave me some antibiotics and some spare dressings in case it started weeping, and sent me home.... I went back the following Tuesday, told the surgeon it had been weeping, so she had a look and decided that she could still feel some fluid under the scar, so she was going to put a little nick in the scar, just so she could drain it out..... as she put the scalpel into the scar, a fountain of yellow and green puss bubbled up and poured out all over me and down my back, she ran to get a nurse and it took the two of them over an hour to clean me up and finish draining it..... they sent me home with a massive dose of antibiotics and a carrier bag full of dressing... and intructions to come back on the friday... so after feeling very ill and in lots of pain for the week.. I went back... I told her that I had used the full bag of dressings..... The surgeon came in and examined the wound and said... "this infection goes all the way down to the implant".. when i asked what that meant, she told me "Your body had rejected the implant... it's got to come out"She also said they are going to remove some of the surrounding tissue just to make sure the cancer hasn't come back and caused this..... They then attatched a stoma bag to the wound so I could empty it 3 times a day myself and gave me an appointment for Wednesday to go and have the left implant removed.
Then I have to wait for 6 months before they they can try again.... they are not going to try inflating the right implant, they are going to leave it and do them both together...... so I won't even be able to wear my prosthesis.... and when I mentioned this, my surgeon just said "You'll cope, your a strong lady"
I am sick of being strong..... I thought I was nearly done and now this..... How much more do I have to put up with.... when am I going to catch a break?
I am sorry to be so negative.... but I have really had enough..... I know I don't have a choice in this, but how long do people expect me to keep smiling and being positive
I will come back after my surgery and let you all know how it went
Well firstly it is good to hear from you and what are we all here for if you can not have a moan and groan, at least it gets it of your chest (ops sorry for that).
I am so sorry you are having all these problems especially after the year you have had, I to was told I could of had my implants done 6 months after all treatment but when I started to ask a lot of questions with my breast nurse, doctors they suggested I waited about a year as I was told the Radiotherapy can cause problems i.e hardening of the implant, tissue still to firm etc etc so now I am waiting until January next year. I know it is hard but I look at it that I have gone 1 year so a few more months is not going to make a lot of differance. I am sure that when you reflect on everything you will realise that waiting will be the best thing so you can have those NEW BOOBS that you will be proud of.
Keep your chin up Caz as I know you can, speak to you soon
I am so sorry to hear that things haven't gone to plan. I believe lots of people have had trouble initially with reconstruction but you will get there in the end. Of course you don't feel 'positive' at the moment to be honest I got heartily sick of people telling me thats what I had to be. If you can be - absolutely marvellous - but if you can't don't beat yourself up about it. I have decided against reconstruction but then I am 63 and I know you are much much younger. I had the right breast removed and didn't want to be on a diet for the rest of my life to keep them both the same size ha ha. All the very best to you for your op and I hope the infection clears up really quickly. One thing that was said you ARE a strong lady but even strong ladies need a cuddle now and again - sending you one
I am so sorry to hear that things haven't gone to plan. I believe lots of people have had trouble initially with reconstruction but you will get there in the end. Of course you don't feel 'positive' at the moment to be honest I got heartily sick of people telling me thats what I had to be. If you can be - absolutely marvellous - but if you can't don't beat yourself up about it. I have decided against reconstruction but then I am 63 and I know you are much much younger. I had the right breast removed and didn't want to be on a diet for the rest of my life to keep them both the same size ha ha. All the very best to you for your op and I hope the infection clears up really quickly. One thing that was said you ARE a strong lady but even strong ladies need a cuddle now and again - sending you one
