Hi. It looks like this discussion thread has been going a long time and i hope i will be able to join the community here. I was diagnosed with breast cancer just after xmas and have had a mastectomy last week. I have a secondary tumor in my hip and possibly in my head so will have to face chemo and radiotherapy although I dont know the details as yet. I would love to make friends on here who i can both support and find support from on this journey. I have 2 grown up children and they have surprised me recently as to how supportive they can be. It certainly is a case of role reversal in my house. Chassis x x

Hi Chassis

Welcome to the place no-one wants to be.Hope you are coping with the mastectomy and glad to see you have support at home.I had mastectomy 4 years ago and have recurrance in the lymph glands in my neck and chest .I have been on chemo for 2 years to contain it and like you have 2 grown up children and 3 grandchildren ,so plenty of reasons to fight on.Hope you have a good medical team looking after you.What part of the world do you live in?We are a well scattered lot on here.

Stay strong.

Rose xxx

Hi Patricia,

There was a programme on TV last week showing this very thing.The mask and the children decorating it  and the process and while the adults were wary of it the children didnt give it a second thought.

I hope you are looking after your health as much as you can.I cant even begin to imagine how you all are,it is just too cruel.

All the luck in the world.Give her a big hug from us all.

Rose xxx

Hey Patricia

Thanks for the update. Things do tend to get slightly calmer when things start to happen re treatment etc. Something else to focus on, I suppose. And as you say, once you start to get to know the wonderful staff that will be looking after your grand daughter, then hopefully it will help you all to cope - even just a little bit.

Big hugs to you all coming from breezy Northumberland. You're in my thoughts and prayers.

Keep us posted as and when you can

Shents xx

oh bless you patrica. cant imagine going through this. just heart breaking. thank god for the people that do that job.

always in my thoughts. xxxx

The Case of the Disappearing Grains of Salt, by Shents...

Hey all

Just had the wierdest trip to a hospital in my entire life.

I had a mammagram, then a magnified mammagram, then an ultrasound scan. They were looking for the 'grains of salt' that were found on my mammagram 2 weeks ago. Something that could have been fine, but might not have been...

At the end of all these procedures, they said - 'We can't find anything. We've been asked to take a biopsy, but there's nothing to take a biopsy of...'

'Sooooo, that's good news right?' I asked, a little puzzled, and my heart beating like the clappers.

'Yeh,' the radiographer replied. 'A little strange, but good news....'

So here I am - a few more gray hairs after the worry of the last 2 weeks, but all in one piece.

Thanks so much everyone for your kind thoughts and Tony for your prayers....the good vibes and the big man upstairs have done their bit for me today.

Much love to all

Shents x

Oh thank goodness Shents.What a worry but a good resultDo you have to go back for a salt search in the future or is that it?

Have a large glass of wine and a good nights sleep.

Rose xxx

Wahoo!

I am hoping the same for me in 3 weeks or so when I have my scan

T x

Hello Ladies and Gents

Firstly I would like to say sorry for not being on lately but I have been so busy at work and then so shattered when I get home I drop into bed. I have been keeping up with all the posts though and some are so sad I find it hard to believe their is a God in this world. My thoughts are with you and you know who you are.

Caroline I was so pleased to see your post about going out, like I said to you brush yourself down and go for it. How did it all go and when is the next outing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Tony am so glad I am back reading your posts you always have so many words of wisdom, we all oew you so much

Well I have some news, I had a CT Scan this week and the results came in today, all is clear, nothing showing in my lungs, heart, bones etc so now I will have to keep my fingers crossed. I have another mamogram on the 16th Feb as you do and then I have my consultant on the 17th Feb, am asking for a second opinion for my reconstruction as the plastic surgeon I saw wants to do a tummy tuck and reconstruction at the same time using fat from my stomach for my boobs. Well my oncologist was not very happy when I told him about this so he is arranging for me to see someone else.

Well all you lovely people I must stop now as I am at work and want to get home so I may celebrate with a very nice Vodka and Diet Coke lol

Have a great weekend

Love to you all

Littlesis (Linda)

Hey Shents, nearly cried when I read your good news. Its' the waiting to know time that is so hard wondering and worrying about the results, I am so pleased for you that they were clear.

Just wanted to sign in and see how everyone was doing, Ive been lucky and been pretty good on the chemo but oh my - the chemo brain. I forget what i am doing, and what i am writing and everything seems to be done or spoken in double dutch or in a back to front  fashion. So if any of my posts have been a bit weird or not made much sense - you know why! No apologies, there are times you can use it to your advantage - like when you say something you shouldn't !

love to all

sara xx

lil sis, you are doing so well, wondered how you had been. What a lovely day it was today, i cleaned all my windows and nets in the sunny breeze and felt heaps better. As I said before, spring is on its way!

sara xx

Linda, without you ladies I wouldn't be able to keep going so it works both ways...you are sounding good and that VDC sounds luvverly...I have a bottle (actually about a 1/3) of JD and open the top just to have a whiff every now and again!

T x

Linda, without you ladies I wouldn't be able to keep going so it works both ways...you are sounding good and that VDC sounds luvverly...I have a bottle (actually about a 1/3) of JD and open the top just to have a whiff every now and again!

T x

Shents........ Yeeeeeeeeeeeeeyyyyy

I am so pleased for you honey, I know what a big relief it is for you honey.. Xxx

Patricia.... it's good to see you still have your sense of humour in the midst of the darkness your family is experiencing... (i have to admit, there are a few guys i would love to see have a mamogram on there wotsits)... just remember honey.. we will be here when you need us. Xxx

Littlesis.... I had a blast, in fact I am out again tonight... I can't believe how many times i got chatter up... did my confidence the world of good. Xxxx

Tony... everything crossed for you in three weeks... please let us know. Xxx

And everybody else..... We have the most amazing family here... I know without all of you, I wouldn't be the woman I am today

thank you all

Love always

Caz xxxxxxxxxx

Hello Everyone

Alot can happen in a couple of weeks hey? Good and bad, but what a wonderful support this group is.

I was so saddened to hear some of the news and then gladdened to hear other news.  Life is so up and down.

I would just like to share with you that I am feeling really good now, so to anyone who has just joined this group there is a light at the end of the tunnel.  I went to my first Pilates class on Wednesday night and when I got home I said to my hubby - did the last 8 months really happen?  I feel so good I cannot believe I was ever that ill. I know I have a long way to go but at the moment it is so nice to feel normal.

Thanks for all the meassages that you have all written on here because it does help.

To all of you waiting for results I am thinking about you and you are in my thoughts and prayers.

Love

Anne

x

shents anne caz n ladies

just wanted to say im really pleased about results n so glad you are feeling so good. cheers to you all!!

love leonie xxxxxx

rose how are you getting on now? you have been a little quiet. how you are ok. much love xxxxxx

Hi Lonie,

Still plodding on thanks.Picking up slowly since December but no muscles and still trying to put that 1 1/2 stone back on,crazy for a lifelong dieter but feeling better .Scan in 2 weeks to see how this chemo is doing but saw the heart doctor last week and things are OK there now Ive changed treatment.Lots of people fighting my corner and trying hard to keep me here.Looking forward to some warmer weather soon.

Hope your strength comes back soon,you have had such a tough time.Its murder when your mind feels you want to do things and your body doesnt back it up.I cant imagine how on earth you cope with children to see to as well.If I had a hat I would take it off to you.

Always lovely to hear from you,we go back a long way and thankfully it keeps getting longer

Stay safe

Love Rose xxxx

Hi guys thanx for replying, I phoned breast nurse who spoke to oncologist who said I had to remember what my body has been through and that it's expected to have bone pain and especially my back as it's the weakest point. Anyway went to gym for a swim today and feel good. Shents that's amazing news for you, good luck Tony and love to all xx

hi rose

glad things are getting better for you. even more happy theres loads of people looking after you. you are such a special lady n helped so many people on here. i think you are amazing! lucky for me i have a good husband to do most things for the kids so i get to rest a bit. cant wait til i get my life back though n be mummy again. chat soon special one.

love leonie xxxxxxxx

n rose good luck for scan this week. please let me know. xxx

Looking good pretty lady .Lovely pic.

Scan was a bit of a fiasco !!!All plugged in and ready to go,lay down and about 10 seconds later had to sit up because I cant breathe laying on my back.tried again but no go so i asked if I could lay on my stomach as i can breathe OK then .10 mins later after numerous phone calls they said it would be Ok,They are so helpful and did everything they could,so I had the scan laying on my tum and they found out that the computer flips the images the right way which no-one knew so it was a learning curve all round !!!Dont get results till oncologist appt next week

Glad you are having help with the pain,you have had such a time I hope it does the trick and life gets easier .

Love Rose xxx

hi not feeling great today. well thats not true cos i havent felt great for a long time but you learn to cope dont you. im less happy basically cos my husband got in a bit of a mood n am bothered about how much it affects me.

i know he is the one i spend nearly all my time with, n that he has been through so much but when he gets moody it has such an affect on me. n he doesnt even have to do anything bad. but i go from coping  to annoyed to thinking about how flipping bad i really do feel. i have pain every single day n struggle sometimes to rise above it, but i do most of the time. some days are worse than others. i get up n joke about a bit do things when i can. i try to be n actlike a mother to my 3 kids. i try to be a wife n act like one. i try to be an owner of a dog n act like one. but every single day i hurt n still try to act like im ok. friends family ask how i am n im ok. but when my husband gets in a mardy mood i slowly lose that ability to rise above it all.

when i was going through chemo, i had no energy for anything. to walk into the next room would kill me. for my little one to just cuddle me was painful. if he leant on my legs or anything id be in so much pain. boys would try n talk to me n i would get annoyed cos of noise n confusion. id try to talk but would muddle my words n they would take mick a bit, n i would get annoyed cos of how much energy it took. or the pain i was in. to clean my teeth was a twice daily torture n to eat...

since then things have improved in every way. but i still have a lot of pain n a year after surgery its hard to cope with. my treatment has finished but i have so much to still put up with. my cancer should be gone but things still hurt. im having to take medication to combat chemo problems which stop me from driving being 'with it' n being able to cope with it all. i cant take more of the med i need cos of how it makes me feel. i cant wait for pain management app!

when i have a drink i can get in a better mood. it can give me energy that i dont normally feel. it can allow me to think about my kids in all their torment of feelings etc. it can give me energy n the mind to think about what i should be doing or feeling. it can make me feel human n normal ish again. but if my husband does my head in, i cant bounce back. i should be on the mend now n however much i try, i dont feel like ive just beaten cancer.

im sorry, some might not be used to me talking like this n i dont want you worrying. sometimes life is just hard..!! bloody hard n its not my husbands fault if hes mardy. but at the same time, its not mine either! any advise on how to deal with it is much appreciated.

love leonie xxxx

dear leonie

you have been thru so much ,everyone has a different set of circumstances , it is hard on everyone xxxxxxx

will email u xxx lots love and hugs xxxx xxxxxx