hi im 36 mother of 3 n diagnosed dec 23. ive had 2 ops n 5 of 6 chemo n finding it very hard at mo. feel so peed off n cant get rid of that feeling. would love to chat. x
Hi I'm 45 and just found out that a lump I had on my breast is cancerous, I had lump and lymph nodes removed last tues, so I'm now waiting to hear what treatment I'm going to need, My consultant has said most likely 8 sessions of chemo every 3 weeks, so 6 months in total and then radiotherapy mon-fri for a month, so i'm kinda in the unknown zone at the moment. Not looking forward to the hair loss, terribly vain i know, but my hair is very important to me like most women, I colour it blonde which will obviously have to stop. As far as I know my chemo will be given intrevenously, so my hair will most probably fall out. I am going to look into getting a real hair wig as I dont think i've got the guts to go au natural, I've also picked up a couple of bandanas to wear about the house. My partner says it doesnt matter if my hair falls out, as long as i'm here. Luckily I've found the lump very early by self examination whilst on holiday and my consultant is very positive about me getting better. I'm very wary about the next 9 months but feel quite determinded that chemo is a wonder drug and will make me better. My girls are 22 and 20 and are amazing, they have read stories in magazines about Kylie, sally from corrie etc and are determined I will just do what the doc says and get better, my partner who ive only been with for 2 years is the most wonderful guy ever, dunno what I'd do without him, he's been with me every step of the way. I was worried about losing my breast, but fortunately I had a lumpectomy which looks amazing. my consultant says put your life on hold for the next 6-9 months get better and you'll never look back, oh yeah sounds easy, but im trying really hard. I hope I'm still this positive whilst I go through my treatment (def not I hear you say) lol, but I'm a determined ***!
just had my lump and nodes removed thursday (12th Aug) so will know my treatment shortly. I am expected to have radiotherapy and chemo but i thought radiotherapy came first, seems on here it is the other way around - perhaps I wasn't listening. I'm feeling a bit daunted at what comes next but more so for the effect it will have on the family - i worry too about not being the glamourous vital woman i was and will that change my realationship with my partner and so on. Although we are planning to get married. So much to talk about! it would appear you will be going through treatment at around the same time as me, so if you would like to stay in touch and discuss our good and bad days, please do !!! my email is simplysara1@hotmail.com
Sorry it's a bit late in the day but have managed to get to a computer whilst on holiday and had to get a message to you to say that I am thinking of you at this time.
It is understanable that you are having a wobble! who wouldn't, your daughter is going off to uni this weekend and then you start treatment. It is a very emotional time when your children leave home and it is like a new chapter in your life has just began. Your daughter will be fine and I am sure once she has settled in at Uni you can start to concentrate on you. I know when my son went to uni I cried for a week before he went, that is a mother for you! I miss him now and he lives in Hong Kong! Skype and emeil are marvellous ways of keeping in touch and then the miles do not seem so far.
We all worry about our kids and husbands but keep talking and telling them that although you are not going to feel and look great for a few months it is to benefit you and them in the long term.
Good luck for Monday and ask any questions you want about the treatment.
Thank you for your support. The one thing that i dont like is needles!!!!!!! im ok with blood taken, but the one in the back of the hand is something i really dont like and that is what im having tomorrow!.can you tell me if this is what you had? x regards dizzy.
Good luck tomorrow Dizzy.It is strange how the most dreaded part is always that needle :cry: .Its all downhill after that.Turn your head away and imagine it is Colin Firth or whoever you fancy putting the needle in (?!!!).It still hurts but you dont show it !!
